Post by blu on Jul 9, 2008 14:33:40 GMT -5
Well as some of you know my ex(39) moved in a 18 year old gf he knew three weeks late last fall as soon as he finally got a place of his own. It was horrible. The girls felt betrayed and akward, they felt pushed aside. She fought with the ex and with the girls...it was just bad all around.
Well that fell apart in April and he moved out in May to a house of his own. It is a old house but nice and his, I was happy for him and he was doing so much better mentally without the teenage GF.
Well now he has another new gf of about 4 weeks (moves fast) and I have met her since she started spending the night there right away..."how long I am supposed to be alone" She does seem nice and she is actually older than him and the girls seem to enjoy her so far
but... now I am feeling scared about their time there with them.
My 6 year old came home and said in the car the other night that Daddys gf was moving in and now there is a mommy and daddy at daddy's house but only a mommy at mine. He is taking them a little more overnight and playing the doting father now. He got cable and a TV in their bedroom and now she brought over a PS2 for their room....
I was a step mom and I know nothing beats biology to a kid and I think I am a pretty good mom, but we never allowed TV in bedrooms and I played this game before, we were the bad cop to my stepdaughter....
So I get the laundry, dishes, schedules, bills, house, dog, yard, doctor and dentist visits, chores, grammar, table manners, the homework, the school volunteering, church, the emotional fall out, the requirements.... I have my bf over once a week when they are not there with serious arranging first... and he gets the first run movies and the trips to go camping overnight, the TV in the bedroom, the once a week "play dates" with them..
Oh and the great preadvanced schedules one or two days a head of time like....."you already had plans for tomorrow right? (the 4th) because I don't get off til late and we are going to my gf's dad's house"
Oh and the part where you struggle daily with the doubt any relationship will ever work again.... while he blythly starts them every month....
Uggghhhh..........................
Well that fell apart in April and he moved out in May to a house of his own. It is a old house but nice and his, I was happy for him and he was doing so much better mentally without the teenage GF.
Well now he has another new gf of about 4 weeks (moves fast) and I have met her since she started spending the night there right away..."how long I am supposed to be alone" She does seem nice and she is actually older than him and the girls seem to enjoy her so far
but... now I am feeling scared about their time there with them.
My 6 year old came home and said in the car the other night that Daddys gf was moving in and now there is a mommy and daddy at daddy's house but only a mommy at mine. He is taking them a little more overnight and playing the doting father now. He got cable and a TV in their bedroom and now she brought over a PS2 for their room....
I was a step mom and I know nothing beats biology to a kid and I think I am a pretty good mom, but we never allowed TV in bedrooms and I played this game before, we were the bad cop to my stepdaughter....
So I get the laundry, dishes, schedules, bills, house, dog, yard, doctor and dentist visits, chores, grammar, table manners, the homework, the school volunteering, church, the emotional fall out, the requirements.... I have my bf over once a week when they are not there with serious arranging first... and he gets the first run movies and the trips to go camping overnight, the TV in the bedroom, the once a week "play dates" with them..
Oh and the great preadvanced schedules one or two days a head of time like....."you already had plans for tomorrow right? (the 4th) because I don't get off til late and we are going to my gf's dad's house"
Oh and the part where you struggle daily with the doubt any relationship will ever work again.... while he blythly starts them every month....
Uggghhhh..........................