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Post by blazinheart on Jan 21, 2008 16:14:55 GMT -5
I don't want to hijack the thread, but... I don't think most parents drop their children to daycare for them to socialize... Blaze, can you give me some money so i don't have to drop my child off at daycare everyday so that he could socialize?? Well giving your child the opportunity to become more socially adept is just the excuse people use to justify sticking their child in a daycare. I think it's a crock. Well, obviously you don't hate it enough to do something about it. You may hate dropping your child off at daycare, but you do it because you've decided that making money is more important that being with your child during the day. It's the same choice that most mothers make. And it's a poor reflection on our society. Making money and working is more important than being with your young child. My divorced sister does it, and I completely disapprove. She has been dropping her 2 year old off at a daycare since her divorce so that she can go work. She does this despite the fact that her family will take care of her until her child is old enough to go to school. She does it for her own selfish reasons. She does it, not in her child's own best interest but in own selfish interests.
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Post by JC on Jan 21, 2008 16:34:24 GMT -5
why would you think its selfish of her? wont it afford her child things later on in life that he might otherwise not have? like maybe saving up for his college or something like that? i mean i can think of plenty of homeless people who have huge hearts and are well rounded and know how to love because mommy stayed home...
its more of a balance to find out what is best for your child. nobody can figure that out but the parents of said child.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 21, 2008 16:35:06 GMT -5
apparently you didnt quote me on why it is more important for me to work Blaze. Honestly, i think you should give me money so I wouldnt have to work to put food on the table, pay the power, gas, water... obviously you've never been a single parent. so u should shut the fark up about what's more important to me than making money. you just don't know what the hell you're talking about when it comes to supporting children, thus paying for daycare so I CAN make the money to pay for his necessities.
I'm sorry if your soo stuck to your momma's titty that you can't accept the fact that children need socialization, they need the feel of being independant.
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Post by rocko on Jan 21, 2008 16:38:32 GMT -5
I NEVER put my children in daycare. Iworked in daycares and didn't want my kids raised that way. I did put them in a two day a week for two hours at a time MMO program to get a little socialization. I volunteered there and helped with their class and with the others.
My husband and I also have my husband's elderly quadriplegic uncle living in our home. My husband and I refuse to make him go into a nursing home. He is very happy living with us. He is mentally sound, but a ton of work for us. We think it is worth the work for him to be home with family. My real shock is how suprised people seem that he and I would take on this responsibility. I can't imagine turning him away.
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Post by Dave on Jan 21, 2008 16:48:11 GMT -5
as a teacher i see many kids who would have been WAY better off in daycare than at home with their "family."
I just love (sarcasm) how conservatives (Blazin, et al.) yap about how they are all about freedom but then deplore anyone taking advantage of it.
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Post by wizer on Jan 21, 2008 16:53:12 GMT -5
Well, obviously you don't hate it enough to do something about it. You may hate dropping your child off at daycare, but you do it because you've decided that making money is more important that being with your child during the day. It's the same choice that most mothers make. And it's a poor reflection on our society. Making money and working is more important than being with your young child. That's just ridiculous to even say, blazin'. It's stuff like that that makes me think you are just trying to get people riled up. Some people have to work to keep the lights on and put food on the table. For you to suggest that they put money ahead of their children is completely ignorant and insensitive. It's an insult to all the working parents out there that have trouble making ends meet and have to sacrice their relationship with their children due to financial need.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 21, 2008 16:53:42 GMT -5
I absolutely did my homework before actually chosing the right caretake for my son. I am out of my element out here in California, no friends, no family, no-one. So i really had to chose carefully. So far, i've had no problems with my childcare provider. she completly adores my son like her own and fully attentive to his needs. And because i'm a single parent, her price is reasonable. and in all greatness, i'm like a 10 block radius of her, and my apartment.
Rocko, you completely contradict your self when you say you wouldnt want your children raised in a day care because you've worked at daycares and you know the way you raise children.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 21, 2008 16:56:16 GMT -5
Well, obviously you don't hate it enough to do something about it. You may hate dropping your child off at daycare, but you do it because you've decided that making money is more important that being with your child during the day. It's the same choice that most mothers make. And it's a poor reflection on our society. Making money and working is more important than being with your young child. That's just ridiculous to even say, blazin'. It's stuff like that that makes me think you are just trying to get people riled up. Some people have to work to keep the lights on and put food on the table. For you to suggest that they put money ahead of their children is completely ignorant and insensitive. It's an insult to all the working parents out there that have trouble making ends meet and have to sacrice their relationship with their children due to financial need. blazin's bitter.
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Post by Dave on Jan 21, 2008 17:02:14 GMT -5
Hello, Captain Obvious.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 21, 2008 17:08:55 GMT -5
its almost pitiful.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 21, 2008 18:04:05 GMT -5
People can come up with all the excuses in the world for ditching their young children during the day while they do something else. But it will never make it right.
There are several options that the federal and state governments offer so that single mothers don't have to leave their children with strangers.
What it all boils down to is priorities. In our society, our priorities are out of whack. We put financial security above our responsibilities to our own children.
Yeah, I know it's humbling to head down to the welfare office, the housing office or the unemployment office to ask for help. But if it means a mother being able to stay home with and raise her child properly, then it should be a no brainer. Unfortunately, unlike most of the world, we have lost those values.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 21, 2008 18:07:20 GMT -5
okay Blazin, do you have children?
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 21, 2008 18:08:50 GMT -5
okay Blazin, do you have children? This ain't about me saucy, this is about right and wrong. Now, perhaps you'd like to address the points I made in my last post. Or are you at a loss for excuses?
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Post by lumpy on Jan 21, 2008 18:27:12 GMT -5
People can come up with all the excuses in the world for ditching their young children during the day while they do something else. But it will never make it right. Going to work and providing for your kids is a pretty sad excuse. It's very easy for someone in your position (No kids) to judge.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 21, 2008 18:27:37 GMT -5
You are basically saying that I choose to drop my child off at daycare to go and fuck off the rest of my day.
You are obviously missing my point and everyone else's point here. We need money to survive. Even though i may not be making my millions right this second, every friggen penny counts. And if everyone could qualify to live off gov't assistance so that we could stay at home and be with our children every waking day, where would our society be then?
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