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Post by shattered on Nov 5, 2008 18:05:54 GMT -5
I've been thinking of you off and on:
I've moved on with my life (already miserable in my next unhappy love affair), and I no longer feel active hate for you. Most times I feel neutral about you, and I guess I feel like I've forgiven you.
I just realized I do not forgive you. I don't need to forgive you. My non-forgiveness of you is not something that haunts my life or keeps me awake at night.
I don't know if I can ever forgive you, because you created a wound that will never heal: You let me get close to your children and then just ripped them away from me.
I still feel so much pain about that. I usually supress it. But when I think about it -- no, no way do I feel any forgiveness coming on.
But even that is OK. What matters is that I got my life back.
Not that I'm very succesful with my regained life, but at least I got it back.
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Post by rocko on Nov 6, 2008 8:50:27 GMT -5
I dont' think I will ever really forgive my ex for what he did to my heart, but I did just let it go. I guess in a way it is forgiveness.
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Post by ionysis on Nov 12, 2008 1:10:38 GMT -5
Me niether Shattered. I will always think my ex is a POS, particularly as he continues to treat others the way he treated me. I don't think you have to "forgive" to move on. I will never be able to say to my ex "don't worry, what you did was OK" because it wasn't it was horrendous and cruel and he is not a good person. But I don't long for bad things to happen to him any more (well maybe a bit!).
You can move on without forgiveness, but I think there will always be a little taste of bitterness inside you which wasn't there before. I can live with that.
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Post by jules on Nov 12, 2008 4:09:06 GMT -5
For me, forgiveness was not at all about "what you did was ok," because I'll never believe that. It was more about letting go of anger and resentment. Yes, his actions profoundly affected my life and left me with trust issues that I don't know if I'll ever fully overcome. But now I see him as just a man, an immature man, a boy, really, who acted out of weakness and selfishness -- not maliciousness. For me, gaining that perspective was what I considered forgiveness. And it it was only after doing that that I could let go and truly begin to move on.
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Post by super on Nov 13, 2008 21:35:17 GMT -5
I feel the same way. I don't think it will ever be okay, but I know he was just weak and selfish. He couldn't handle things any better. Trying to move on.
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