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Post by rocko on Nov 6, 2008 13:10:21 GMT -5
Damn girl...go to the doctor and see what they can do!!
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Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 6, 2008 13:15:48 GMT -5
See!! That's what I'm talking about! It goes beyond the normal, "everyone runs into some weird/creepy/crazy person every now and then" thing. I was just talking about this to a girlfriend last night after I got that weird e-mail. She said that a group of us could go out and talk to the most normal seeming group of guys out. But, it would never fail that even if I just stood there and didn't say a word, the worst guy in the group would be the one drawn to me. I HATE IT.
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Post by Mel (cherry) on Nov 6, 2008 13:22:07 GMT -5
Hoodie,
I have examined this so closely over the years. I have a theory that seemed to work for me............interested at all?
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Post by c on Nov 6, 2008 13:33:11 GMT -5
ROFLOL.. Damn Hoodie. Find a pill quick. That's a pretty decent rap sheet you filled out. Where do you live, Rikers island?
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Post by rocko on Nov 6, 2008 13:39:41 GMT -5
i used to have the same problem when I was younger. I think it is because I smile a lot and say hi to people when they are looking at me.
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Post by c on Nov 6, 2008 13:44:43 GMT -5
i used to have the same problem when I was younger. I think it is because I smile a lot and say hi to people when they are looking at me. I think a guy will interpret just about anythign a girl does as potential evidence that she likes him. Sadly just being you is all it takes to attrack a man.
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Post by redskyatnight on Nov 6, 2008 13:44:41 GMT -5
LOL Well, Craig's List guy isn't getting an answer. AT ALL. And, I have gotten better over time at seeing things. People are shocked at the things to me that send up red flags. In the end, I am usually right though. I've been around enough people that I notice things other's normally wouldn't. And, I have gotten much better over time at shooting down the weirdos from my past that keep coming back around. They go away for a while and then they'll try again. I shoot them down, they go away...It's a weird cycle. I have had to threaten more than one with calling the cops and that finally does the trick most of the time! It just never fails...If I were to walk into somewhere with my girlfriends or alone, the guy who tries to talk to me is usually the one who ends up the freaky one. I don't get it! Okay, before anyone says, "Well, maybe you're the freaky one..." I think if it were that much the case, my friends/famiy/co-workers wouldn't be so baffled by it. None of them ever imagined they'd know someone who could get a stalker just by stopping for gas one night... This made me think. You are a beautiful woman and I've heard that guys are imtimidated by physical beauty, so maybe you attract the freaks cause they are the only ones with the courage to talk to you.
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Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 6, 2008 13:51:39 GMT -5
Hoodie, I have examined this so closely over the years. I have a theory that seemed to work for me............interested at all? Maybe you should PM it to me! lol
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Post by jules on Nov 6, 2008 13:52:06 GMT -5
I hesitate to post this because I truly do not wish to offend accidentally. But... I find that certain predators are eager to target in on those that they perceive to be easily malleable. Now, I am not saying you ARE easily malleable, hoodie. But it's possible that you may have a way about you -- mannerisms, posture, stance, a way of speaking, facial expressions, etc. which may somehow indicate to others that you are somehow an easy mark. Your friends would probably be able to advise you on this if you ask them honestly. It just seems to me that's the only logical reason for what you are describing.
Contrary to my "bitch lessons" offer, I actually am friendly. I smile at and converse with random people all the time. (Shoot, I fit right in when I visited the midwest!) However, it's really rare that someone attempts to f*ck with me (and if they do, that's when my bitch claws come out in the form of a few disdainful words that sends them packing.) To my knowledge, I've never even met a criminal (unless you count someone who has been repeatedly arrested for organizing anti-war, anti-nuke protests.)
It sounds like you are getting stronger all the time, hoodie. You are out on your own, supporting yourself and your family. I hope that you can exude the strength and confidence that you have found within yourself. (And come up with a few really good zingers to have on hand when you do get hassled by losers!)
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Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 6, 2008 13:52:43 GMT -5
LOL Well, Craig's List guy isn't getting an answer. AT ALL. And, I have gotten better over time at seeing things. People are shocked at the things to me that send up red flags. In the end, I am usually right though. I've been around enough people that I notice things other's normally wouldn't. And, I have gotten much better over time at shooting down the weirdos from my past that keep coming back around. They go away for a while and then they'll try again. I shoot them down, they go away...It's a weird cycle. I have had to threaten more than one with calling the cops and that finally does the trick most of the time! It just never fails...If I were to walk into somewhere with my girlfriends or alone, the guy who tries to talk to me is usually the one who ends up the freaky one. I don't get it! Okay, before anyone says, "Well, maybe you're the freaky one..." I think if it were that much the case, my friends/famiy/co-workers wouldn't be so baffled by it. None of them ever imagined they'd know someone who could get a stalker just by stopping for gas one night... This made me think. You are a beautiful woman and I've heard that guys are imtimidated by physical beauty, so maybe you attract the freaks cause they are the only ones with the courage to talk to you. LMAO That is so funny!!
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Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 6, 2008 13:57:50 GMT -5
I hesitate to post this because I truly do not wish to offend accidentally. But... I find that certain predators are eager to target in on those that they perceive to be easily malleable. Now, I am not saying you ARE easily malleable, hoodie. But it's possible that you may have a way about you -- mannerisms, posture, stance, a way of speaking, facial expressions, etc. which may somehow indicate to others that you are somehow an easy mark. Your friends would probably be able to advise you on this if you ask them honestly. It just seems to me that's the only logical reason for what you are describing. Contrary to my "bitch lessons" offer, I actually am friendly. I smile at and converse with random people all the time. (Shoot, I fit right in when I visited the midwest!) However, it's really rare that someone attempts to f*ck with me (and if they do, that's when my bitch claws come out in the form of a few disdainful words that sends them packing.) To my knowledge, I've never even met a criminal (unless you count someone who has been repeatedly arrested for organizing anti-war, anti-nuke protests.) It sounds like you are getting stronger all the time, hoodie. You are out on your own, supporting yourself and your family. I hope that you can exude the strength and confidence that you have found within yourself. (And come up with a few really good zingers to have on hand when you do get hassled by losers!) No worries. Promise, no offence taken. I have wondered about this before. I am the type of person who is very polite and yet fairly shy. I think I might be one of the last of the people I know who needs bitch lessons, usually they are asking me to give them...Ironically. I always have a few really good, choice words/phrases on hand when there's a problem. Maybe it really has been a confidence thing all along so I look like an easy target. That might explain why I have had to ask my friends if it looks like I have "sucker" stamped on my head. Luckly, for all the attempts made, I am pretty good at getting rid of them (some easier than others). It's really something I have noticed though forever with the type of people that are drawn to me. My friends comment on it, my family, my co-workers...Today, it's just annoyed me enough to vent away and seek advice. Thanks again, jules. I will take what you say into very heavy concideration because it makes A LOT of sense.
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Post by Mel (cherry) on Nov 6, 2008 14:05:36 GMT -5
Hoodie, I have examined this so closely over the years. I have a theory that seemed to work for me............interested at all? Maybe you should PM it to me! lol Yeah, that may be the safest way. ;D PM on the way shortly
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Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 6, 2008 15:20:01 GMT -5
wow! Good advice from all around! Thank you everyone...This is a very trying time and I feel like with it, I am on a quest to be better. I tell everyone else to see their inner stregnth and it's time I find my own too. I am tired of feeling like I must project that I am a giant doormat. The types of people that swarm around should be a big red flag that there are some inner changes I need to make to fix that.
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Post by JimB on Nov 7, 2008 15:23:12 GMT -5
This made me think. You are a beautiful woman and I've heard that guys are imtimidated by physical beauty, so maybe you attract the freaks cause they are the only ones with the courage to talk to you. I'm going with this one. ;D
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Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 13, 2008 17:06:49 GMT -5
This made me think. You are a beautiful woman and I've heard that guys are imtimidated by physical beauty, so maybe you attract the freaks cause they are the only ones with the courage to talk to you. I'm going with this one. ;D I did read an article about something very similar not long ago... LMAO
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