Post by finding on Jan 6, 2009 12:15:58 GMT -5
I'm sorry that your guilt is eating at you, but it isn't my place or responsiblity to vindicate or validate your guilt. You seem to think I am still angry, hate you, or am out for vengence. I don't care what your reasoning is, but I wish you would finally get it that I am over the affair you had with my husband. It is in the past, and that is where it needs to stay. I have learned what I needed to learn and am moving forward with my life.
I really hate it when you call me up and leave me a voicemail, email, or IM me when you are feeling guilty about his death. Quit changing your IM account when I block you. At this point I no longer read them, but send to the trash and delete them. You are no more responsible for his death than I am. It is very distasteful and tacky that you cry to other people and come to me when you are wallowing in self pity and guilt.
That was my husband and the father of my children. You were nothing more than the other woman and a way to get back at me for the wrongs he made up in his own mind that I had committed against him. Everyone, but you could see it. The last time I actually spoke to you (which was a mistake on my part) I apologized for my poor behavior when all you could was make excuses and try to justify your own actions.
People have asked me over and over again why I have put up with you for so long. My response is always the same--I don't see the need to be mean and nasty. I have made my own mistakes, will continue to do so, but have learned from them and am moving forward with my life.
Now kindly do me the favor of leaving me the fuck alone because you haven't learned from yours and want validation for your own fuck ups. I'm not your keeper, nor do I ever want to be.
I really hate it when you call me up and leave me a voicemail, email, or IM me when you are feeling guilty about his death. Quit changing your IM account when I block you. At this point I no longer read them, but send to the trash and delete them. You are no more responsible for his death than I am. It is very distasteful and tacky that you cry to other people and come to me when you are wallowing in self pity and guilt.
That was my husband and the father of my children. You were nothing more than the other woman and a way to get back at me for the wrongs he made up in his own mind that I had committed against him. Everyone, but you could see it. The last time I actually spoke to you (which was a mistake on my part) I apologized for my poor behavior when all you could was make excuses and try to justify your own actions.
People have asked me over and over again why I have put up with you for so long. My response is always the same--I don't see the need to be mean and nasty. I have made my own mistakes, will continue to do so, but have learned from them and am moving forward with my life.
Now kindly do me the favor of leaving me the fuck alone because you haven't learned from yours and want validation for your own fuck ups. I'm not your keeper, nor do I ever want to be.