Post by crushy on Mar 21, 2008 2:00:34 GMT -5
My 15 yr old son is a doll. He attracts he girls because he's he silent, quiet type. I can't take him to the movies without girls throwing candy at him to get his attn.
I go into his bathroom this morning and there lay an open note. I could see it was a girl's writing. I want to give my sons a level of privacy, but working where I do, I also know there are things to watch for.
It was innocent enough. 'Did Nick tell you I wanted to talk to you? You can call me anytime at _______.' So, I'm driving him to school this morning and mention the note because I don't want to be one of those sneaky, nosy mom's. He laughed and said, 'Ya know what she told Nick? She said she saw me in 9th grade and has had dreams about me since.'
Good thing, my son trusts me and shares...Scary thing....what he shares scares me to death!!! I'd already hooked up with his dad 2 yrs before the age he is now. Look how that turned out.
I want so much to talk to his dad, but he's so busy with his newborn baby and posturing to win the custody suit he has no chance on, he won't put our sons first.
I just thank God for my fiance. He knows more about my sons and actually spends more time talking to them 1,600 miles away at this point because their own dad has this idea of what they should be and sees no benefit in anything else.
My oldest is very cerebral and deep.......something his dad is not. W helps cultivate and guide my son to be who he is and decide for himself. This is HUGE to a teenage boy. Don't get me wrong, drugs, drinking, etc are off the table, but just to understand him, ask him to tell him more, consider his position, gently give him other points of view to look at things. That's what my son needs at this time. Both sons were disappointed I came back from Texas unmarried.
Oh man, I'm just so not ready for this...
I go into his bathroom this morning and there lay an open note. I could see it was a girl's writing. I want to give my sons a level of privacy, but working where I do, I also know there are things to watch for.
It was innocent enough. 'Did Nick tell you I wanted to talk to you? You can call me anytime at _______.' So, I'm driving him to school this morning and mention the note because I don't want to be one of those sneaky, nosy mom's. He laughed and said, 'Ya know what she told Nick? She said she saw me in 9th grade and has had dreams about me since.'
Good thing, my son trusts me and shares...Scary thing....what he shares scares me to death!!! I'd already hooked up with his dad 2 yrs before the age he is now. Look how that turned out.
I want so much to talk to his dad, but he's so busy with his newborn baby and posturing to win the custody suit he has no chance on, he won't put our sons first.
I just thank God for my fiance. He knows more about my sons and actually spends more time talking to them 1,600 miles away at this point because their own dad has this idea of what they should be and sees no benefit in anything else.
My oldest is very cerebral and deep.......something his dad is not. W helps cultivate and guide my son to be who he is and decide for himself. This is HUGE to a teenage boy. Don't get me wrong, drugs, drinking, etc are off the table, but just to understand him, ask him to tell him more, consider his position, gently give him other points of view to look at things. That's what my son needs at this time. Both sons were disappointed I came back from Texas unmarried.
Oh man, I'm just so not ready for this...