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Post by redskyatnight on May 20, 2008 14:55:24 GMT -5
I freaking salt and peppered his food!! That's just crazy. Look how far you have come.
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Post by crushy on May 20, 2008 15:47:33 GMT -5
I freaking salt and peppered his food!! That's just crazy. Look how far you have come. You're right, Sey. Thanks for the wake up call. I'm feeling a little better, but just got my first call from the VP of my youngest son's school. He apparently wrote some offensive stuff on the back of a paper in English. Thankfully, the VP knew me personally because I've had a few meetings with them and know he's in counseling. I admit, I'm surprised what he'd written because he is generally so tender. He's my little 'feeler'. I think it came from being pantsed yesterday (he's lost weight since being diagnosed and taking ADD medication) in 7th grade. How horrible for a kid that age!! We got him a belt and stuff, but really? His counselor says not to talk to the school and let him handle it, but that put me over the edge yesterday...I know kids will be kids, but my sons wouldn't pants anyone but each other, of course...little stinkers . If I remember right, you'd had a court appointed Guardian ad Li Tem, right? We go to court again in June and he's pathetic. I'd sent him an e-mail that my youngest brought up suicide a couple of weeks ago and not one freaking word!! You better believe if I owed him $, I'd hear from him. He doesn't even have freaking kids!! Man, I am so grumpy today! I'm generally pretty easy, but this is getting really old!! He has a concert tonight that I've been looking forward to. He's a living doll, very polite and cute (if I do say so myself). Why are some kids just so mean? Neither of my sons would ever intentionally hurt someone. I know they're kids and that's why I'm trying to be calm, but why? What kind of adults are they going to be? I thought everyone had empathy, but since I've learned that's not the case, it's a little easier not to take some things so personally. Discover your Strengths...great book. You take a little on-line test and it's not only helpful for your work environment, but for your personal life too. Focus, Empathy, Developer, Communicator and Discipline. I'm tellin' ya, it's a great book. It gives you so much insight into why you think the way you do and why others do. My fiance is Deliberative, Analytical and I don't remember what else right now, but just having shared this book has been great for the way we communicate...not to mention we've been in an LDR for going on 4 yrs, so our relationship is based mostly on communication. He works for a very big co and they encourage their employees to read it and even have a book club type thing that my fiance now chairs. I'm tellin' ya, it's worth it's weight in gold. Thanks for taking the time to post to me while I was so upset. You're right, I've come a long way. W wouldn't even think about having me S&P his food. I can be right by the fridge and he won't ask me to grab him a drink. It's so awesome to be happy, be yourself and enjoy each other.
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Post by redskyatnight on May 21, 2008 5:19:26 GMT -5
I'm sorry you are so grumpy. Those days stink. It sounds like you need a break from all the stress. Fortunately, summer is right around the corner and shcool will be over soon. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. That goes for your son too.
As far as your ex, I'll tell you what my lawyer told me. "Your ex is your best witness." It takes time, but the court will eventually see that his behavior won't change and stop giving him chances.
Good luck in June. I go back to court in June too.
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Post by crushy on May 21, 2008 6:14:14 GMT -5
I'm sorry you are so grumpy. Those days stink. It sounds like you need a break from all the stress. Fortunately, summer is right around the corner and shcool will be over soon. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. That goes for your son too. As far as your ex, I'll tell you what my lawyer told me. "Your ex is your best witness." It takes time, but the court will eventually see that his behavior won't change and stop giving him chances. Good luck in June. I go back to court in June too. Thanks, you're right. I feel like myself again and can't believe I was so grumpy yesterday. I have a lot to be thankful for and today, I'm going to bask in them. I like what your attorney said. My fiance often tells me that we need him to just keep being himself and he'll bury himself. He was right, yours is too. Thanks and good luck to you too! Before we know it, we'll be posting how happy we are they showed their true colors and hopefully not to someone that is going through the same thing.
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Post by crushy on May 22, 2008 8:10:12 GMT -5
Yep, at least they're predictable. Yesterday was a great day for me. It's becoming very apparent he's painted himself into a corner. Don't get me wrong, I know I've made mistakes and will make more, so I have a lot of ownership in what my sons are going through, but I finally got over it and have tried and tried to put down the gloves and put them first which is when he seems to pounce even more. He can view the olive branch as weak, I really don't care at this point, I just want my sons to be under less stress and be the main focus of everything for everyone. I just have to remember the positives and focus on my sons. Plus I've been blessed w/ awesome ex in-laws. They are so great!! I just wish June 11th wasn't so far away. Hopefully, time will go fast because I fly to TX today to see my fiance for a few days. Of course I hold no hope for Mediation again in June, but at least that is one more thing down. There are so many things I'd love to post, but can't right now since he's (and she's) a psycho stalker. I turned a major corner yesterday and I'm very proud of myself for finally doing it. Like Sey said, 'what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.' I have a choice in some of what I'm going through and I've taken some of my control back. Life can be good, but a 2nd life is a gift not to be taken for granted.
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