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Post by rocko on May 1, 2008 8:54:31 GMT -5
Are you a minister??
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Post by Kim Possible on Jun 8, 2008 7:33:52 GMT -5
It is quite interesting how different parishes have different rules.
I had my daughter baptized last year, she was NOT an infant. Her father is not Catholic, I am (we did not get married in church though). Her father agreed to let her be baptized, so she could receive frst Communion. She was already attending the school there (which he agreed to while we were still married), and learning all the content, and was interested in it. He chose not to be involved, which was fine with me.
So my mom and I went to the rectory, and explained our situation. All they cared about was that at least one parent was catholic. I told them her father was not (they never even asked if I was married to the father, and at the time, our divorce was not even final yet). They never even asked for Catholic "proof". My daughter's Godfather is divorced, and I asked if that was a problem. All they said was that the Godparents needed to be catholic, but no proof was required. I was 'on my honor'
My daughter's friend was baptized (as a baby) at the same church, and her parents are not married (never have been, and probably won't be).
Another friend of my daughter's mom got married in the church, when her daughter was about 5... to a man other than her father!! I am still not sure if she was ever married to her daughter's father, but the church is well aware that this little girl exsists (she goes to the school and sings in the choir). Her family has been involved in the parish forever, I don't know if that made any difference.
I know the Catholic church has all these 'rules' and ideals that they want their followers to follow. But the reality is, none of us are perfect, and have made mistakes (call them Sins, if you will). Aren't they supposed to forgive us of our wrongdoings?
I was talking to a friend of mine about if I were to ever get married again, and how I'd love to do it in church (as I never have, nor have I ever been married to person of my faith). We were talking about my past (being married twice, but not in the church). His thought was, would they risk losing the 'sale' of the wedding, as well as my daughter's tuition, because of that?
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Post by freckles on Jun 8, 2008 9:16:32 GMT -5
I am a Christian (I do my best)
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Jun 28, 2008 13:21:47 GMT -5
Post by blu on Jun 28, 2008 13:21:47 GMT -5
You should go to the *Church of Christ Thats where I go I think she might find a Church of Christ a little too far removed from what she's used to. I can say that, being raised Church of Christ myself. Think Southern Baptist, but twice as anal with no instrumental music... Now that doesn't sound even fun
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Jun 28, 2008 13:29:58 GMT -5
Post by blu on Jun 28, 2008 13:29:58 GMT -5
It is quite interesting how different parishes have different rules. I had my daughter baptized last year, she was NOT an infant. Her father is not Catholic, I am (we did not get married in church though). Her father agreed to let her be baptized, so she could receive frst Communion. She was already attending the school there (which he agreed to while we were still married), and learning all the content, and was interested in it. He chose not to be involved, which was fine with me. So my mom and I went to the rectory, and explained our situation. All they cared about was that at least one parent was catholic. I told them her father was not (they never even asked if I was married to the father, and at the time, our divorce was not even final yet). They never even asked for Catholic "proof". My daughter's Godfather is divorced, and I asked if that was a problem. All they said was that the Godparents needed to be catholic, but no proof was required. I was 'on my honor' My daughter's friend was baptized (as a baby) at the same church, and her parents are not married (never have been, and probably won't be). Another friend of my daughter's mom got married in the church, when her daughter was about 5... to a man other than her father!! I am still not sure if she was ever married to her daughter's father, but the church is well aware that this little girl exsists (she goes to the school and sings in the choir). Her family has been involved in the parish forever, I don't know if that made any difference. I know the Catholic church has all these 'rules' and ideals that they want their followers to follow. But the reality is, none of us are perfect, and have made mistakes (call them Sins, if you will). Aren't they supposed to forgive us of our wrongdoings? I was talking to a friend of mine about if I were to ever get married again, and how I'd love to do it in church (as I never have, nor have I ever been married to person of my faith). We were talking about my past (being married twice, but not in the church). His thought was, would they risk losing the 'sale' of the wedding, as well as my daughter's tuition, because of that? I am a practicing Catholic, daughter and granddaughter of cradle catholics and am now divorced but was married in a non catholic cermeony to a non-catholic man who had already been divorced and my two daughters are both baptized have Catholic Godparents and who are attending the same Catholic school I grew up in - whew. So I have run into the same questions, same assumed answers and same inconsistencies too. The bottom line is I am active contributing member of my faith, doing my best but not perfect, a sinner and nobody has ever stopped me before I received communion and said "body of chirst - oh wait tell me your story first...." So I would definitely try to find ways to be able to rpactice your faith and find a church who can embrace that .... Oh interestingly enough now that I am divorced since it was never a recognized marriage and neither were his others there is no annullment even needed. I am back to as if nothing happened....
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Jun 29, 2008 5:49:45 GMT -5
Post by flyaway on Jun 29, 2008 5:49:45 GMT -5
You should go to the *Church of Christ Thats where I go I think she might find a Church of Christ a little too far removed from what she's used to. I can say that, being raised Church of Christ myself. Think Southern Baptist, but twice as anal with no instrumental music... Yes, but would that be BIG hair or long hair with no product?
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Jun 29, 2008 9:45:19 GMT -5
Post by freckles on Jun 29, 2008 9:45:19 GMT -5
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Post by Phyxius on Jun 29, 2008 13:03:21 GMT -5
I think she might find a Church of Christ a little too far removed from what she's used to. I can say that, being raised Church of Christ myself. Think Southern Baptist, but twice as anal with no instrumental music... Yes, but would that be BIG hair or long hair with no product? This is East Texas -- BIG hair is still mandatory...
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Jun 30, 2008 1:18:04 GMT -5
Post by flyaway on Jun 30, 2008 1:18:04 GMT -5
;D
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Post by freckles on Jun 30, 2008 11:38:33 GMT -5
;D I dont see a Photo ?
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Post by flyaway on Jul 12, 2008 3:56:37 GMT -5
Oh dear. I found the coolest pic. And well, I guess it didn't work. lol.
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