I am not going to read all 3 pages that I skipped, but I just want to say that all kids are different and need different parenting. Jacob, Alec and Kyle get different consequences for their behaviors (good and bad ones).
I do NOT leave my 4 and 6 year old with ANYONE except my mother (anytime) and scotty (when they are in bed in our own home). I have on two occasions left them with my 14 year old nephew for 30 minutes to an hour. I was only 2 minutes away and they all know my number (except kyle). I was comfortable with that BECAUSE Ryan is very mature and I know that he will do what is best for my boys.
I will not leave my children with my husbands mother because I know her best interests come before my childrens and she is an "adult".
You cannot judge just by age.
Shey, is it possible that she is still bored with the school work and knows if she doens't turn everything in that it won't hurt her grades too much. Could she possibly need a magnet school or something??? You know so she would have other children surrounding her that excel to help motivate her?
i am a big fan of strict when they are younger, so when they are older they know what is expected of them.
i am never going to say that my way is best and if you dont do it my way then you are a bad parent... my sil taught me that. we are exact opposites, both have 3 kids around the same ages... we do absolutely NOTHING the same, it is sort of a running joke with us.
my feeling is that shey asked for advice, and then spent the time defending herself as a parent, which i was never attacking and neither was cherry.. i admit that i come across pretty rough around the edges, but of all the people on this site, shey knows not to take it personally towards her.
i agree with kids having responsibility, knowing when they are supposed to turn in papers etc. but, when a child shows that they arent there yet, and i believe that her daughter has shown that by the way she has 'forgotten' to turn in so many assignments, i think it is up to the parent to step in, and set some guidelines. i dont think she should have to go over homework every night, etc. which i believe i have already said. but the fact that she was forgetting to turn things in says that shey needs to figure something out. personally, i am always going to be involved in my kids school work, because to me it is important. i dont think that noting when certain projects are due, and making sure they are turned in then is shey being 'to involved'
i know that my style of raising my kids is a lot more strict than most, i dont buy into a lot of the new age crap. i am not a fan of every kid plays on the team, and there are no losers. but to each his own. if shey stepped into my house im sure it would be an adjustment for her.
just got this email, and i think a few of these points apply.
Love him or hate him, he sure hits the nail on the head with this! Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good,politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.
Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!
Rule 2: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.
Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.
Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.
Rule 6: If you mess up,it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.
Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.