Werd - Should I call Her or Not ?

[freckles]

I went on a Date with this Lady at this Store I go to

Everything was Good on the Date we even kissed at the end

I called her a day later wantting to go out sunday

She said she was working etc

Then I thought about it and decided She was not a good match but I like Her as a Friend and might even go out sometime

I went to that store 3 times

I have been going there 3 or 4 times a week for the past 5 years

She acts like she does not know my name

Or 2 times when I come back to the frount she has Hid out

And the Black lady checks me out, while frowing.

I have not done anything

Should I call that lady or just forget it and try to avoid her as she seems to be me ?

[freckles]

I dont think I will call Her

She must be kooky or something

I want a Lady that wants me

Not one where I have to walk on eggshells because I have no idea what she wants

[bobfromacctg]

If she hides when you come in then its time to moveon.org. Unfortunatly, I would say that if she kissed you at the end of the date and now hides, you probably mis-read her cues regarding the kiss at the end.

Just an opinion. I wait a bit before I kiss simply because I want to know they are interested. Otherwise its just touching lips with out the emotions and that is not anything I want.

[freckles]

I asked Her if She would like the Traditional kiss

She said Yes

So I did not just kiss Her without her permission

[sheyd]

This is just me, Freckles, but I don't like it when people don't face you and tell you what the problem is. Even if she is uncomfortable, she should do you that courtesy - and maybe you could learn from it! I would think a call where you say "I notice you have been avoiding me, I can take a hint, but can you tell me what I did?" would be be perfectly acceptable, and maybe SHE would learn something from it! That avoiding stuff is kinda rude, in my opinion.

[freckles]

I thought our Date went well

But, I think She is Older than I want

And with all of Her family living with Her

But, I would like to think we can be Friends and maybe go out or something

But, she is acting werd

?

[shattered]

Hi Freckles,

My two cents: I agree with Bob that if she hides from you it's time to move on.

Also agree with Shey that common courtesy would be to tell you she'd prefer not to go out again than avoiding you like that, and that a phone call along the lines of what Shey suggested would be absolutely appropriate. You just need to figure out if it's worth the effort to you.

As for asking permission to give a kiss, that is fine, but how are you defining a "traditional" kiss? A peck on the lips? No problem there. Tongue? Maybe that wasn't part of her definition of "traditional" and freaked her out.

I'd say when in doubt, always err on the side of caution. Saying to a woman on a first date, "I had a really nice time, I'd like to go out again," can often have more effect and be more meaningful than a kiss.

Good luck, Freckles!

Shattered

[freckles]

A Peck on the Lips

I do wonder if she gave me my sore throat

[Phyxius]

Jun 12, 2008 19:57:45 GMT -5 freckles said:

A Peck on the Lips

I do wonder if she gave me my sore throat

If she did, be glad she didn't kiss you anywhere else...

[rocko]

I would not call and ask her out again, but I think what shey said would work.

Call and tell her you have noticed her avoiding you and you would like to learn from what you did wrong. So what is it?

[freckles]

Jun 16, 2008 10:45:02 GMT -5 rocko said:

I would not call and ask her out again, but I think what shey said would work.

Call and tell her you have noticed her avoiding you and you would like to learn from what you did wrong. So what is it?

I stoped by that Store today

She was there and was Nice

[freckles]

Yesterday She was even Nicer

Talking and Stuff

[sheyd]

Well, that IS strange... I still wouldn't think there is anything worth pursuing there, but at least your time at the store won't be awkward!

[bobfromacctg]

I'm with Shey, at least it won't be akward at the store but I would leave it at that.