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Post by glassonion on Jul 11, 2008 21:36:49 GMT -5
I need comments and quick!
J left town to travel to spend some quality time with his mom, who is dying from cancer.
He is due back Sunday and I was thinking: I know he has literally nothing in his fridge, would it be bizarre, too mothering-like if I were to go to the supermarket, pick up some milk, bread, and eggs, leave them in his fridge? This way when he gets back, he has something for dinner.
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Post by freckles on Jul 11, 2008 21:48:00 GMT -5
People help each other Buy some food
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Post by Phyxius on Jul 11, 2008 23:18:25 GMT -5
Well, the question is: How close have you been as far as groceries are concerned? It would put me back a little bit, but then, if you already had a key it might not... Did that make any sense? If I were already comfortable enough with you to give you a key, it wouldn't weird me out. If I weren't, I'd probably be obsessing on how you got to my fridge in the first place...
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Post by glassonion on Jul 12, 2008 8:31:35 GMT -5
J gave me the key to his house several months ago and always comments for me to feel free and use it whenever I'd like or need to.
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Post by jules on Jul 12, 2008 13:33:12 GMT -5
the guys can probably advise you best, but it does strike me as a very "mothering" type of gesture... besides, wouldn't most people order takeout getting home on a sunday night? then again, you know him best to judge if he's a milk, bread, and eggs kind of guy. i'd be more likely to show up with a pizza if he felt like company.
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Post by Mel (cherry) on Jul 12, 2008 18:16:50 GMT -5
My bf would appreciate things like that. And that sounds like something I would do. Since you have a key, I wouldn't think it was weird at all. Jules idea is a good one as well, in fact I did just that thing with KFC the night his septic tank backed up, they were busy cleaning it up and I thought they might like to eat without worring about cooking.
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Post by glassonion on Jul 12, 2008 19:51:06 GMT -5
Personally, if it were me, I'd much rather do the take out thing but, J is more of the staying in, cook at home, old school type of guy.
I think I'm going to go with my idea and put some food in his fridge. I know that is something that I'd deeply appreciate.
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Post by glassonion on Jul 13, 2008 15:45:49 GMT -5
My plan was a good one, he was quite appreciative and grateful that I actually took the time to consider going out of my way to help him out. he must have thanked me 17 times. The sad part is that his mom will probably leave us any day now.
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Post by glassonion on Jul 15, 2008 14:58:01 GMT -5
Just wanted to let you guys know that early this morning, J's mom passed away. His heart is broken, as is mine.
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Post by Mel (cherry) on Jul 15, 2008 15:23:14 GMT -5
Oh hun, my condolences to you both.
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Post by sheyd on Jul 15, 2008 15:35:07 GMT -5
So sorry... Losing a parent is so very difficult. You are in my thoughts...
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Post by super on Jul 15, 2008 16:35:10 GMT -5
oh no, i'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by RO on Jul 16, 2008 0:16:07 GMT -5
So very sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies.
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Post by glassonion on Jul 18, 2008 22:51:44 GMT -5
Tonight was the wake for J's mother. Last night he invited me over to meet his entire family and tonight after the wake, he asked me to join him and a few of his close family members to a local bar in honor of his mother. I was very honored to be included, although we have been together over a year, I had never met his mom (as she lived about 5 hours away). His entire family welcomed me with open arms.
I was still on the fence about attending the burial tomorrow morning, but after talking with J tonight, I learned that he is completely expecting me to be there, and to support him in what is probably one of the saddest days of his life.
I was also surprised at the wake tonight when my dad and step mother showed up to pay their respect. Another thing that caught me off guard was when my best friend's husband kept making comments about "me marrying J", though this topic has never been discussed between J and I.....friend's husband says it's a given and everyone knows it. HUMMMMM.......
Anyway, I am sure tomorrow will be a sad day and I am not looking forward to it.
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