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Jerk
Jul 28, 2008 5:47:43 GMT -5
Post by redskyatnight on Jul 28, 2008 5:47:43 GMT -5
The ex is still so selfish, unable to put his hangups aside for the best initerest of the kids. Our co-parenting counselor says we should make an effort to talk to each other in public. I go out of my way to say something to him when he drops the kids off and he tries to get around it by having the kids answer the question.
I invite him into my new house, as the counselor suggested, but you can't even come up with a good excuse to say no. You just say no. He is angry that I bought a house, but the kids are terribly excited. It just pisses me off that his needs still are what is most important to him. Get over yourself, suck it up.
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Jerk
Jul 28, 2008 9:52:37 GMT -5
Post by kittenhart on Jul 28, 2008 9:52:37 GMT -5
Does he listen to what your counsellor suggests at all? He does sound selfish Sorry (Seyfert)
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Jerk
Jul 28, 2008 10:24:42 GMT -5
Post by jules on Jul 28, 2008 10:24:42 GMT -5
Ugh, what a child. I hope he grows up someday, for your kids' sake.
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Jerk
Jul 28, 2008 11:08:02 GMT -5
Post by redskyatnight on Jul 28, 2008 11:08:02 GMT -5
He doesn't like the counselor and is court ordered to be there. The counseling has helped, but only because he knows she reports to the court. He tries to get away with everything that he can.
He even told the counselor that he was disappointed in her last session because I was asking for him to fulfill the property settlement. The jerk still has my name on the Title to his house and the equity line that goes with it. His reason for not taking me off is "because she likes to go in the hosue and take pictures." (His house is a cluttered, stinky, mess Not only does he not throw anything away, he collects recyclables. He doesn't recycle them, he just picks them up - from the street, from trash cans, from wherever - ) Doesn't make sense to me either. I haven't taken pictures in a year and if it bothers you that much, take me off th title. What kind of freaking logic is he using?
I keep telling myself, only 10 more years until the kids are legal adults and able to make their own decisions. I know, I'll still have to have contact with him, but not like it is now.
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blu
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Jerk
Aug 7, 2008 19:07:09 GMT -5
Post by blu on Aug 7, 2008 19:07:09 GMT -5
I am counting too - I just don't want to wish away their youth at the same time. When we were discussing divorce my husband's counselor privately asked me "why is this enough for you? Why are you willing to do so much with so little in return from him?" I can live on the validation I got from that to this day
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