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Post by blazinheart on Jan 13, 2008 23:00:34 GMT -5
Essentially. I mean really. Why does someone divorce their spouse? Well for one reason or another, they've decided that the marriage simply will not work, so they end it. And why does someone separate from their spouse? Well, for one reason or another, they've decided that the marriage isn't working, so they end it, "temporarily"(which inevitably means permanently)? The only difference is, one is a chickenshit way of saying "it's over" the other is an honest way of saying "it's over".
Think about it. What is a separation? It's when one spouse moves out because the relationship isn't working and they live apart, basically as though they weren't married. So a separation is nothing more than the warm up for the divorce.
Divorce and separation are the same thing.
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Post by rocko on Jan 14, 2008 8:42:44 GMT -5
pretty much.
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Post by finding on Jan 14, 2008 15:38:57 GMT -5
A separation is not always a chicken shit way. Circumstances beyound the person's control may keep them for pursuing the divorce, at least temporarily.
It took me 18 months to find an attorney who would take my case, and another 4 months to be able to pay the retainer as he charged twice as much as every other attorney in town.
I do agree that they are basically the same, though some people say it isn't over until the divorce is finalized and won't move on with life until it is.
My ex had it in his head that nothing had changed between us even though we were separated. He saw it as he still had control over me and my life, even though we were no longer living together and had our separate lives. I can't tell you the amount of times I told him it was over and he still didn't get it.
The day he left the house was the day our marraige ended as far as I am concerned.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 14, 2008 15:53:34 GMT -5
although i truly wish it was the same. i wish that you didnt have to go through the whole court process. i wish you didnt have to pay soo much. i wish you didnt have to wait and wait until that stupid judgment is finalized, where you could actually mourn the death of a marriage.
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