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Post by blazinheart on Jan 13, 2008 23:01:59 GMT -5
I'm interested to hear how others define marriage. So.....
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Post by jules on Jan 14, 2008 10:17:15 GMT -5
Partners in life for a lifetime (ideally )
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ladyj
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Post by ladyj on Jan 14, 2008 10:36:16 GMT -5
Hell on earth.
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Post by goods on Jan 14, 2008 10:39:36 GMT -5
Aww come on Lady J. It can be heaven and hell, just like life.
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Post by Phyxius on Jan 14, 2008 10:46:41 GMT -5
The Impressive Clergyman: Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam...
[cut to Westley, Inigo, and Fezzik]
The Impressive Clergyman: And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva...
[cut to the trio again]
The Impressive Clergyman: So tweasure your wuv.
Prince Humperdinck: Skip to the end.
The Impressive Clergyman: Have you the wing?
[cut to the trio once more]
The Impressive Clergyman: ...and do you,Pwincess Buwwercup...
Prince Humperdinck: Man and wife. Say man and wife.
The Impressive Clergyman: Man an' wife.
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Post by sheyd on Jan 14, 2008 10:55:20 GMT -5
Do you want the ideal or the reality? I mean, nothing is perfect, so in everything we do we can only STRIVE for the dream, right?
To me, the dream of marriage is when two people decide with hearts, minds, souls and bodies to work together for a lifetime. That means when it sucks, you BOTH work together to fix it. (And it WILL suck at times.) A marriage is a committment to knowing yourself and your partner the best you can, so you can help each other BE the best you can. Which means attempting forgiveness, and understanding, and empathy. This is a TOUGH job, and requires some selflessness on your part, some sacrifices, some pain. You will both fail at times. The marriage will seem to be failing at times. The reward is that someone else will be actually knowing you and loving the REAL you - not superficially. The reward is that working together you can go farther in everything than working alone. The reward is that at the end of your life you can look back on your time with this person WITH them, and know you were able to share your world, and be a part of someone else's. The reward is that sometimes you can rekindle the early sparks and re-fall-in-love - WITH THE SAME PERSON. There is pain, there is joy - heaven and hell in one breath - but it is a shared heaven and hell.
That is the dream. The reality is whatever we make of it.
Shey
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Spike
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Post by Spike on Jan 16, 2008 8:41:48 GMT -5
A prison sentence disguised as a commitment!!
Just kidding. LOL
A momentary lapse of reason!!
Ok, ok!!
A commitment made between to people. Usually not held to by one of the two, in this day and age.
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Post by cdngurl on Jan 16, 2008 9:26:13 GMT -5
I think the traditional view of marriage is being redefined. With so much divorce and co-habitation going on, it isn't the same as it was 50 years ago.
I believe people go into it now thinking somewhere in the back of their minds they can leave if things don't work out -- so people enter their "marriage" with different intentions (perhaps subconsciously) than people did in generations past.
At the same time, I have friends who are common law, who will never get "married" but will never be apart. They call each other husband and wife, but define their commitment their own way. So they are more "married" than many people walking down the ailse.
Marriage to me then, is a choice people make every day, through good times and bad, to remain committed to one another... whether bound by law or by love.
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Post by sheyd on Jan 16, 2008 9:57:58 GMT -5
Marriage to me then, is a choice people make every day, through good times and bad, to remain committed to one another... whether bound by law or by love. I like that. Just add... committed to each other and working on it together... and you have a GOOD marriage. Shey
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Post by JimB on Jan 16, 2008 14:09:51 GMT -5
You can't define marriage in a vacuum. It's defined by the two people who are in it.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 16, 2008 14:37:15 GMT -5
You can't define marriage in a vacuum. It's defined by the two people who are in it. Cmon, jimb, rather than rattle off some subjective, psuedo-philosophical ideal, let's hear your definition of marriage. Step up to bat and represent yourself. What is marriage, to you?
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Post by Saucy on Jan 16, 2008 16:33:38 GMT -5
To be eachother's #1. Supporting each other emotionally, financially, physically. To be faithful in every aspect of the relationship and to be true. Humble.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 16, 2008 16:53:41 GMT -5
To be eachother's #1. Supporting each other emotionally, financially, physically. To be faithful in every aspect of the relationship and to be true. Humble. for how long?
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Post by Saucy on Jan 16, 2008 18:28:59 GMT -5
even after life.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 16, 2008 19:44:31 GMT -5
Obviously your ex-husband didn't feel the same.
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