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Post by kittenhart on Aug 7, 2008 14:48:55 GMT -5
So I am thinking of going speed dating (RO convinced me to register....so hopefully I will not be a chicken shit and bail at the last minute....I don't feel ready exactly but not sure I will ever feel ready if I just keep waiting ). RO was helping me think of questions for speed dating and I was hoping some of you that have gone could give some feed back or add some questions. __________________________________ 1. Are you single? 2. How close are you to your parents? How often do you talk to your mum? How far away do your parents live from you? 3. Any siblings? 4. Any pets? Do you have pet allergies? 5. Do you know what "larping" is? 6. Do you like Warcraft or Star Trek? Are you a gamer? 7. Do you like your job? What do you like best about it? 8. What places do you like to hang out at in your free time? _____________________________________________ You only have 6 minutes but at least it is in person so you can kindof read the person a bit better....anyone have stories about speed dating to share?
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Post by redskyatnight on Aug 7, 2008 15:04:22 GMT -5
Good luck with that and let us know how it goes. I like to find out what a person is passionate about, so I'd ask something like, "If money and responsibility were not an issue, what would you do with your time?"
I've asked that of several people and have found their answers to be everything from travel the world first-class to building and maintaining hiking trails. I found out a lot about someone in a short period of time.
Oh and lol to "Are you single?" good question, let's hope they are.
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Post by hoodieprincess on Aug 7, 2008 16:21:30 GMT -5
Good luck with that and let us know how it goes. I like to find out what a person is passionate about, so I'd ask something like, "If money and responsibility were not an issue, what would you do with your time?" Great question!! Maybe what is their favorite dater they are...Are they the playful kind, the romantic, the serious, the "just like to hang out" kind? My best friend did speed dating once and this was a very helpful question to find out if someone was the kind of person she could date outside of the speed dating session. Also, maybe what their favorite food is? Any particular hobbies? When their last relationship was? Why did they try speed dating?
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Post by hoodieprincess on Aug 7, 2008 16:23:03 GMT -5
Oh, and I almost forgot...
[glow=pink,2,300]GOOD LUCK!!![/glow] ;D
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Post by JimB on Aug 7, 2008 16:25:44 GMT -5
I really liked speed dating - bet you'll like it too. __________________________________ 1. Are you single? LOL, but I'd skip this one in the interest of time. That's the first question you ask if you get past speed dating, though. I guess so, if all that stuff interests you. LOVE it. In fact, if it were me, that would be my first question. I have no idea what it is, but it really sets you apart from the crowd. I prefer "rate your nerdiness on a scale of 1-10 and explain your rating." More open ended. Meh. One that I used very successfully in speed dating is "what is your passion in life?" It's successful because everybody loves talking about their passion, and it's usually infectious. (Of course, when talking to a guy, there's always the chance he'll answer "porn".) Generally speaking, as I mentioned, I liked using open ended questions. It took a lot of the pressure off me because that way I didn't have to talk as much. And IMO, it's better to really engage with someone on two questions, rather than getting 7 or 8 yeses or noes. I thought speed dating was a ton of fun, but I wasn't in it to fall in love - I was in it to be entertained for an evening. So as I got more comfortable with it, I took it less and less seriously. And the less seriously I took it, the more people seemed to take an interest in me.
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Post by lqdKaos on Aug 7, 2008 16:41:26 GMT -5
I like the "rate your nerdiness" question. Personally, I never got into warcraft, and dislike startrek.....BUT I am a huge star wars trilogy fan (only episodes IV, V and VI).
If they rate high or low, you can ask what they might do to offset the nerdiness, or increase it.
Asking if they are a gamer, or about specifics could alienate the person.
Ask what their activities are or what they do in their free time. You can then ask what got them started in the activities they enjoy. This could lead into a question about friends or movies. That could lead into questions about family.
All without sounding rehearsed or like canned "pre-thought out" questions.
I have no idea what LARPing is, I just googled it though... This question will definitely set you apart from the rest of the unoriginal opening questions. Plus it leads you into talking about your / their activities....
Thus, opening question leads into conversation.
Good luck, go with the plan of having fun and you will have fun.
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Post by blu on Aug 7, 2008 16:58:45 GMT -5
Lol I am showing my age here but a variation on the nerd question for me is - "Do you now or have you ever played Dungeons and Dragons willingly?"
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Post by lqdKaos on Aug 7, 2008 17:09:33 GMT -5
Lol I am showing my age here but a variation on the nerd question for me is - "Do you now or have you ever played Dungeons and Dragons willingly?" I think I may even have some of my old stat sheets and 8 / 16 / 32 sided dice. Does that make me nerdy?
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Post by lumpy on Aug 7, 2008 19:33:27 GMT -5
[quote author=lqdkaos board=dating thread=1507 post=28517 time=1218146973I think I may even have some of my old stat sheets and 8 / 16 / 32 sided dice. Does that make me nerdy?[/quote] Only if you fail your saving throw.
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Post by blu on Aug 7, 2008 20:05:01 GMT -5
Or if you ever use refer to your "kicking boots" while on a date!
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Post by RO on Aug 7, 2008 20:17:38 GMT -5
Hey, I think their suggestions are great ones, kh. I like the idea like Jim said of open ended questions and perhaps the single ? is too plain. I like it though...to me, it shows a sense of humour...go figure. HAH. But I also agree go into it looking for a fun evening and not for a SO. I am looking for my list from the guy I sat with after leaving you this a.m. ... He had a very interesting spin on the speed dating and it really cut down my flight time ... I will post the list when I find it. Hope you are having a great time at the bbq with the hawties... Rate your nerdiness rocks and I am sooo stealing that one. and fyi iqd...um, KH is not into LARPING...it is something I told her to RUN from if she finds out he is into it...LONG story!
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Post by RO on Aug 7, 2008 21:56:00 GMT -5
lol---found the list... Sam had the following suggestions... Um, introduce yourself...(typically, there are name tags but just in case there are not...) ‘What do you do for a living?’, or ‘What do you do for fun?’ Try thinking of some different and unusual questions to make you stand out from all the other singles. Questions like ‘What is your worst habit?’, or ‘If you could be any animal in the world, what would it be and why?’ can lead to some interesting conversations. Humour is always a good ice breaker, but above all, be yourself. YOU rule KH. Just be yourself, girlie. Smile that gorgeous grin, and your laugh is infectious! He suggested that you don’t talk about yourself too much or discuss ex lovers as this can be seen as a BIG turn off. Six minutes isn’t a long time, so make sure you give the other person a chance to speak! Remember, if you’re genuinely interested in other people, they’re more likely to be interested in you. Our conversation swerved to this website on speed dating that he got off his blackberry...interesting conversation amongst the singles enroute to the states. www.futurescopes.com/speed-dating/139/45-best-speed-dating-questions-you-can-ask-prospective-datekh - - do NOT go if you do not want to...don't force yourself. this should be fun! you are not a chicken. the woman i was with this past week is very confident and rocks. your smile lights up the room...you will be fantastic. oh, ask about MUSIC...that says a LOT.
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Post by Mel (cherry) on Aug 8, 2008 7:20:22 GMT -5
How can you go wrong with fans like RO in your corner my dear? Good luck and most of all, have fun!!
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Post by jules on Aug 8, 2008 10:35:06 GMT -5
Wow, brave woman! I love the question about passions -- that tells a lot about a person. Also about what you would do with your time if money and responsibilities weren't factors. How about something like "What do you really love about your life right now?" Or "If you won an all-expenses paid trip anywhere in the world, where would you go?" Or "What or who has been your greatest inspiration?" (Yeah, I tend to go for the deep questions. Best to balance that out with something fun like the nerdiness quotient.) Oh, and thanks for clarifying about the LARP, RO. I was like kh a LARPer?? Really? And yes I know what it is. I dated a guy in college who was into roleplaying (shut up -- the pickin's for straight guys at a liberal arts school are slim!) and learned waaaaay more than I ever needed to know.
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Post by shattered on Aug 8, 2008 12:35:45 GMT -5
I really liked speed dating - bet you'll like it too. __________________________________ 1. Are you single? LOL, but I'd skip this one in the interest of time. That's the first question you ask if you get past speed dating, though. I guess so, if all that stuff interests you. LOVE it. In fact, if it were me, that would be my first question. I have no idea what it is, but it really sets you apart from the crowd. I prefer "rate your nerdiness on a scale of 1-10 and explain your rating." More open ended. Meh. One that I used very successfully in speed dating is "what is your passion in life?" It's successful because everybody loves talking about their passion, and it's usually infectious. (Of course, when talking to a guy, there's always the chance he'll answer "porn".) Generally speaking, as I mentioned, I liked using open ended questions. It took a lot of the pressure off me because that way I didn't have to talk as much. And IMO, it's better to really engage with someone on two questions, rather than getting 7 or 8 yeses or noes. I thought speed dating was a ton of fun, but I wasn't in it to fall in love - I was in it to be entertained for an evening. So as I got more comfortable with it, I took it less and less seriously. And the less seriously I took it, the more people seemed to take an interest in me. Excellent post JimB -- as usual. Never done speed dating, but I plan on doing it before the end of the year. Also, I wanna know what larping is.
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