|
Post by crushy on Aug 10, 2008 5:44:50 GMT -5
This is not a 'pat me on the back thread', but an anonymous record to give others ideas of good deeds that can be done or received and the difference anyone and everyone can make.
I'll start...
Yesterday, I was the recipient of a good deed. My brother replaced my garbage disposal. In turn, I gave him $ for gas, the disposal, labor and fixed something to eat for him and his girlfriend while he worked on it. I guess this is more of an example of receiving a good deed since my disposal works again, but I did all I could at the time to thank them.
|
|
|
Post by kittenhart on Aug 10, 2008 14:19:06 GMT -5
Two days ago, the young guys renting next door to me had a keg party......the next day, a cop came around to ask about noise - guess someone called in a noise bylaw complaint- not me, I'm a drummer so why would I do that? (Besides, it took the police until the next day to come out? ?WTH??) Anyhow, I feined ignorance of any noise and pulled down their garage door when the cop went to the other neighbour's unit, so cop couldn't look in and see keg and other illegal herbal stuff they had in there. Frick, I was 20 once too.....and it's not like they were really that noisy
|
|
|
Post by RO on Aug 10, 2008 19:14:50 GMT -5
Pay it Forward is the only way to go.
I think once you have battled an illness/accident/chronic pain/or some loss...you become more empathetic in life...your heart grows like the grinch.
For me, I find it is much easier to be kind and positive.
On my route to see KH...I ran into many troubles in my initial adventure. The random act of kindness that involved a complete stranger and her willingness to take a chance on me definately helped with my movement away from cynacism. I truely was slowly becoming a cynic...but she changed that...and for that I am grateful.
Pay it forward...makes a difference...even a small gesture really makes a difference.
|
|
|
Post by kittenhart on Aug 10, 2008 21:57:29 GMT -5
love your new avatar, RO.....I'm not homesick anymore....
I lent someone my cell phone when I was in line for coffee....(does it still count as a good deed if he was cute?)
|
|
|
Post by crushy on Aug 13, 2008 4:53:32 GMT -5
I work with someone that struggles every month to pay her bills. I know her situation intimately because she's hearing impaired and I do a lot of her business over the phone for her since it's quicker and easier than a tdy.
I'm going to get some crisp bills at the bank and put them in an anonymous envelope w/ some quick little note that let's her know she brings so much to other's lives, someone wanted to give a little bit of her kindness back.
I just haven't figured out how to word it so it doesn't sound like she's a charity case. I think I'm the only one at work that even knows her financial struggles which will make being anonymous even more difficult.
She's so sweet and would do anything for anyone. Her husband is retired and now suffers with dementia, so she's all alone in her responsibilities. He does get social security, but won't give her a penny of it. He only shares his $444 monthly pension to add to her wage to pay the house payment and all of the bills. They still have one daughter at home w/ some kids.
I've worked in the same building as her for 18 years now and it's been that way the whole time I've known her. It just breaks my heart because every once in a while she gets teary while I'm calling for her. She's signed a release and I have a password to be able to discuss such matters regarding her loans with the companies.
Can anyone think of a better way to help her? I thought about paying a mortgage pmt for her, but she'd literally be sick knowing it's a mistake and would not relax and accept it.
Help?
|
|
|
Post by shattered on Aug 13, 2008 9:15:08 GMT -5
Crushy,
Though the idea of the bills in the envelope is wonderful, it sounds as if she might not accept the money, and not relax until she finds out who it's from.
As a possible alternative -- how about placing a big order (including everything from basic necessesities to fun stuff, i.e., perhaps there is something she and her husband like to eat and drink, but never buy it because it's too expensive) with a local supermarket and having it delivered to her house?
Also, if she becomes too concerned about who sent the groceries and household items, you might just have to give up the anonymous route and tell her it's from you, that it's straight from the heart, and that it'll mean so much to you if she accepts your gift.
shattered
|
|
|
Post by kittenhart on Aug 13, 2008 10:13:45 GMT -5
I just wanted to say that sounds nice....and she would be more likely to accept that, I'd think, rather than cash.
|
|
|
Post by Mel (cherry) on Aug 13, 2008 10:49:08 GMT -5
I think that sounds nice too. I would perhaps throw a little something in there for her too.......
|
|
|
Post by Bobfromacctg on Aug 13, 2008 12:34:14 GMT -5
I would vote for the envelope or give the envelope to her and say that someone (who wants to be unknown) gave this to you to give to her. That way she thinks it wasn't you but she won't be able to find out who gave it to her.
plus, this way you are SURE that she got it - not picked up by the cleaning people.
|
|
|
Post by crushy on Aug 13, 2008 12:37:04 GMT -5
Wow you are all so great! Good points. I know I'd feel funny w/ billls too.
I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks for all of the suggestions. She's the sweetest woman in the world and would do anything for anyone if she had the means. I kind of look to her as a mom since I've known her for 18 years.
|
|
|
Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 6:04:26 GMT -5
I had a really good conversation fw/ her and pleaded w/ her to let me catch her up. I told her it would make being in my accident worth it if I could help someone I loved and told her I've needed help in the past too...that we all do at some point. She was embarrassed about how much it would take to get her caught up, but I am so happy to do it. She's coming over later this morning to get a check. I really think this is even better medicine for me than for her. She's like a mom to me and I just adore her.
|
|
|
Post by Mel (cherry) on Aug 22, 2008 6:09:47 GMT -5
Oh, that is so wonderful to hear. Crushy you are such a wonderful woman.............you talk about me being your inspiration and Im awed, cuz all you have to do is look in the mirror
|
|