Post by kittenhart on Aug 11, 2008 22:22:17 GMT -5
I know some of you probably remember my story and that I share my pets in a joint-custody-kind of agreement with my ex (I know, it's a little odd....but they really are like my furry children).
Why he couldn't just let me have them when he was the one that really wanted the divorce...I'll never know.
Anyhow, when I moved out (around this time last year) we agreed (and it is written in our legal Separation Agreement) that I would get to have a rock, a smooth river stone, with the name of our dead pet engraved onto it. Not an expensive item but of huge emotional significance....I had it in a little memorial planter. I know it sounds dumb, but it was kindof a big deal to me.
Anyhow, my ex, at the time didn't want me to have it...but I said -since he was keeping the house (and the actual place where the pet was buried)- it was only fair that I should get something....he could always get another one made....and I had gotten this one made myself, it was my idea (blah,blah,blah). So he let me have it......11 and a half months go by...I go away on a road trip with RO which he knew about because he had the pets (still has them as took them out of the province without telling me & won't be back for 2 weeks, against the schedule I might add, but whatever :
Anyhow...what's been eating me up is that the memorial rock is gone. I think he came and took it out of the planter while I was out of town.....at first I thought it might be kids or my stoned neighbours, but honestly....I don't know who the hell would really want a rock engraved with the name of someone else's pet and a paw print....except for him. Just to hurt me and mess with my mind. Keep in mind...he is a hugely passive-aggressive person....he rarely outwardly shows anger ( and when he does it's NOT good) but just does really mean crap....and the divorce is just on the last step of being finalized now....so he doesn't see the need to "be nice to me" to ensure any kind of compliance right now, I'm sure.....plus....I really don't have the energy to sick my lawyer on him....it is "just a rock" to most people (How stupid would that sound?)
Am I being totally unreasonable...or does anyone else think this is really mean? What should I do? I already emailed him saying: "That is the lowest thing you've ever done". (Nothing else)
He called me back to say he was sorry but he had nothing to do with it (maybe not but I still don't believe him, how would he know about it?...then he hung up on me when I started getting bitchy about why he figured he could just "inform me in a phone message that he was keeping the pets for 2 more weeks" there's supposed to be advanced notice....plus his phone was disconnected so I haven't been able to call and was getting worried.
I know, I know......it's just a rock.
But the problem is....it isn't.
(And it also means he's hanging around my house when I'm not home...thinking about how to mess with me)
I thought I was finally safe from this.
Why he couldn't just let me have them when he was the one that really wanted the divorce...I'll never know.
Anyhow, when I moved out (around this time last year) we agreed (and it is written in our legal Separation Agreement) that I would get to have a rock, a smooth river stone, with the name of our dead pet engraved onto it. Not an expensive item but of huge emotional significance....I had it in a little memorial planter. I know it sounds dumb, but it was kindof a big deal to me.
Anyhow, my ex, at the time didn't want me to have it...but I said -since he was keeping the house (and the actual place where the pet was buried)- it was only fair that I should get something....he could always get another one made....and I had gotten this one made myself, it was my idea (blah,blah,blah). So he let me have it......11 and a half months go by...I go away on a road trip with RO which he knew about because he had the pets (still has them as took them out of the province without telling me & won't be back for 2 weeks, against the schedule I might add, but whatever :
Anyhow...what's been eating me up is that the memorial rock is gone. I think he came and took it out of the planter while I was out of town.....at first I thought it might be kids or my stoned neighbours, but honestly....I don't know who the hell would really want a rock engraved with the name of someone else's pet and a paw print....except for him. Just to hurt me and mess with my mind. Keep in mind...he is a hugely passive-aggressive person....he rarely outwardly shows anger ( and when he does it's NOT good) but just does really mean crap....and the divorce is just on the last step of being finalized now....so he doesn't see the need to "be nice to me" to ensure any kind of compliance right now, I'm sure.....plus....I really don't have the energy to sick my lawyer on him....it is "just a rock" to most people (How stupid would that sound?)
Am I being totally unreasonable...or does anyone else think this is really mean? What should I do? I already emailed him saying: "That is the lowest thing you've ever done". (Nothing else)
He called me back to say he was sorry but he had nothing to do with it (maybe not but I still don't believe him, how would he know about it?...then he hung up on me when I started getting bitchy about why he figured he could just "inform me in a phone message that he was keeping the pets for 2 more weeks" there's supposed to be advanced notice....plus his phone was disconnected so I haven't been able to call and was getting worried.
I know, I know......it's just a rock.
But the problem is....it isn't.
(And it also means he's hanging around my house when I'm not home...thinking about how to mess with me)
I thought I was finally safe from this.