blu
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Post by blu on Aug 13, 2008 14:56:35 GMT -5
So the sister of my new bf of several months is getting married for the first time at the end of the month. His two small children are in the wedding. We have discussed having me go with him. It will be a nice wedding but not a church wedding or terribly formal.
He would like me to come, but is unsure if his ex will come and neither of us want to deal with what she might do if I am there. She was invited out of courtesy long ago before things got ugly and does not want to ask his sister to deal with her now or have to uninvite her since the kids are both in the wedding.
She left the marriage and entire family after cheating and deciding she want to date others and be in other relationships.
It sounds nice and I would like to go if the ex does not, but to be honest I am not sure that it would be polite for me to attend? I wonder if her wedding is the best time to meet his parents, sister and extended family?
Thoughts???
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Post by redskyatnight on Aug 13, 2008 15:18:26 GMT -5
As hard as it might be, it would probably be easier for everyone involved for you NOT to go, unless you know his sister well and are good friends.
I say this only because there are kids involved. If it was just him and his ex, let her get over it, but her kids are in the wedding too. She'll be involved, he'll be involved and there is just too much potential for nastiness to occur since "neither of you want to deal with waht she might do if you are there."
Of course, if the kids are old enough to shrug off any thing that happens, maybe it would workout.
Your other option is to go and hang quietly in the background while the ex and the bf take care of business with the kids. Keep as much distance from her as possible, be polite and on your best behavior realizing that everyone there will be watching. Holding your head high, with grace and dignity might be the way to go.
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Post by blu on Aug 13, 2008 16:38:35 GMT -5
Thanks for the response, let me clarify though. I have no intention of going if his ex will be there!!
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Post by jules on Aug 13, 2008 18:23:07 GMT -5
I say go. What better time to meet friends and family than at a festive occasion?
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Post by JimB on Aug 14, 2008 7:46:32 GMT -5
How are you going to know whether the ex is coming?
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Post by freckles on Aug 14, 2008 8:38:24 GMT -5
Go and act like Jenni did in * I Dream of Jenni
When they were at a Dinner with a lot of other Women
She waited on Him Hand and foot
And called Him * Master a bunch of times
She acted like his willing Slave Girl
All the Other Women were Bright Red Mad
All the Men were in Awe
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Post by lqdKaos on Aug 14, 2008 9:11:55 GMT -5
Would it be out of the question to ask the sister if your BF's X has RSVP'd to the wedding? How about asking her to call the X and confirm yes or no if she will attend.
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Post by blu on Aug 14, 2008 11:06:43 GMT -5
Well I don't think his sister even wants to deal with his ex when she has so much going on, but I think he could ask his ex to please confirm or decline on his sister's behalf.
The problem with just checking RVSP's is that it seems no one does them these days or at least reliably.
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Post by Kim Possible on Aug 14, 2008 12:21:11 GMT -5
Hmmmm.... interesting situation.
Do you really think, given the circumstances, that she will come? I get that her kids are in the BP, but from what you've said, she's not "mother of the year".
Does T think she will come?
What are his thoughts on you being there while if she is there?
I agree with Seyfert, if this could adversely affect the kids, then maybe you shouldn't.
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