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Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 9:08:47 GMT -5
My poor brother. He hit a lab dog last night leaving my house and it died. He's got such a tender heart. He's just sick. The family saw it happen and knew there was nothing my brother could do. Thankfully, the dog didn't know what happened. He's so upset. He's got prison tattoos, shaved head and cried like a baby. This has been particularly hard on him because an elderly man on a bike ran in front of my brother when he first got his license and the poor man died. He's reliving that as well as crushed about what happened. I feel badly he was here to help me with my dishwasher. Sometimes, life just sucks. Please pray for the family and my brother.
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Post by freckles on Aug 22, 2008 9:25:13 GMT -5
I will Pray for Him and that Family
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Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 9:39:47 GMT -5
I will Pray for Him and that Family Thanks, Freck. I realize this may sound trivial to some people, but my brother is just sick and so is the family of the dog. I tried to reassure him that at least the family knew it was an accident that could not have been prevented and although the family had to see it happen, it's better they know he didn't suffer and the person that hit him could not have avoided it. I just worry about my brother because he's done time in prison because of Meth. I'm afraid reliving the man dying will send him into a binge. He's got a heart of gold. I just wish I could take the pain away for him. We're pretty close because we're only 10 1/2 mos apart. He's trying so hard and got so many obstacles and he has this happen? He's got a great job, a great girl that has known him since high school and that's a lot when you apply for a job or try to find a place to sleep when you get out. It makes me sad when I have such a big house and yet I can't let him stay here because my boys have to come first. Being in a custody battle doesn't help. I know he'd never hurt my boys, but there is always that worry that some bad drug deal might come back to my address because he's used it since he's not had a permanent address for years. Yet, he understands, he doesn't make me feel guilty and he's here to help me while my sons are with their dad for the month in the summer. Oh yeah, I'm a baby today...
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Post by kittenhart on Aug 22, 2008 9:59:16 GMT -5
What a sad situation......I will keep him and the dog's family in my thoughts....your brother must be just devasted right now.
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Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 10:25:46 GMT -5
What a sad situation......I will keep him and the dog's family in my thoughts....your brother must be just devasted right now. Oh yeah, he's just sick. I feel his pain and so I'm just sick. He's crushed. I called him this morning and he was trying to keep it together because he was at work, but I heard it in his voice. Sometmes drug users are drug users because they just need to escape and they are fragile. I'm not excusing him and his problems, but he's a great person. I trust him more than I did my ex. He's real.
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Post by sheyd on Aug 22, 2008 10:30:24 GMT -5
If he has a job, can he maybe go to an Employee Assistance Program counseling? Maybe if he had someone helping him, he could get and stay clean? Btw - meth takes AT LEAST 1 year to clear the system once you are clean - with the cravings always there. On the scary side, the life expectancy of a meth user is 8 years from the first hit. If you can get him some help - particularly with the fragileness that caused him to turn to meth in the first place, you would really be helping him out... I am hoping for the best for him!
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Post by redskyatnight on Aug 22, 2008 10:39:27 GMT -5
I'll pray for him too. Just being there for him is all you can do.
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Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 11:04:09 GMT -5
If he has a job, can he maybe go to an Employee Assistance Program counseling? Maybe if he had someone helping him, he could get and stay clean? Btw - meth takes AT LEAST 1 year to clear the system once you are clean - with the cravings always there. On the scary side, the life expectancy of a meth user is 8 years from the first hit. If you can get him some help - particularly with the fragileness that caused him to turn to meth in the first place, you would really be helping him out... I am hoping for the best for him! Well, he's spent the last 7 of 8 Christmases in prison. We got word a couple of days ago my cousin was found dead. We don't know if it was suicide or an overdose. I am scared to death to get 'that phone call'. I love my brother and I worry about him. I know he's made choices and I don't deny he has responsibility for them, but I love him. I see his tender heart, I see him sacrificing time and energy for me. I know he'd die for me. No one resents his actions more than he does...
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Post by gdgross on Aug 22, 2008 11:43:00 GMT -5
Yikes. That's very sad. Praying that this does not push him back to using.
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Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 18:00:49 GMT -5
He came by today to do some jobs around my house. He feels badly, but I know he's okay. I had to go with him to my bank to pull out a large amt of cash for some things around my house (apparently, everything falls apart at the 9 yr mark) and the people in the bank couldn't believe he was my brother. Makes me kinda laugh because my stupid, anal neighbors across the street trapped my new next door neighbor's cat and put a letter in their mailbox that next time, they would drown it and how would their kids feel? POS people have no kids and in all 9 years of living here, I've only seen 2 people enter their home...one was a painter that they took the day off to babysit. My brother scares them to death. I live in a pretty snobby neighborhood and last time he got out of prison and was in my garage, I had neighbors calling to make sure I was okay. I've told him to do anything he wants. Chicken Little leaves his riding mower and goes inside when my brother is here. I have a psycho cat that bit another neighbor's dog on the butt a couple of weeks ago. We knew he got out, but had no idea there was a problem. She had the nerve to call the shelter rather than ask us if he was current on his shots....Yes, he's declawed and current, just mental because he was taken from his mom too early. So, the day after we get him out of quarantine, we get a thing in the mail from her asking for $ for the March of Dimes. My mom (that rents an apartment on the main floor of my home) returned it with a note that said she'd be happy to give to the good cause, but can't after paying to get our cat out of the shelter. So, when I got into my accident last year, I didn't care that my yard looked like crap because they had to look at it. Anyone that has the time to walk their entire yard to dead-head their annuals one by one daily has to be a freak. I have OCD, but I also have a life. Dumbshits. He's literally glued to his scanner out of pure nosiness. When I rolled my car a few years ago (yep, another accident, but only got to work only 40 min late and yes, it was my fault, but in my defense, a woman did the same thing while I was in the cop car and they were towing my car, she just didn't roll), he knew it was me. Hello? Get a freaking life!!!!!! Yep, our Governer mandated 4/10s and this is what I've done today. Griped on-line. You can only clean so much. I'll be glad to get my sons back tonight.
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