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Post by super on Aug 22, 2008 10:41:26 GMT -5
I know this has been posted a million times, but I really just need to vent!
It's been 10 months since my break-up. I'm tired of thinking about it, tired of feeling betrayed, tired of wondering what now. I want to just forget about it already. I'm sick of feeling cynical and unsure that I will ever feel like that about someone else again. I'm tired of old memories intruding. I'm tired of being angry. I wish I didn't think about him, and want him to feel the same. He is just not worth my time!!
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Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 10:46:50 GMT -5
Congrats, honey....I know it doesn't feel like it, but you just hit a milestone. You are completely normal and justified. Hang in there. You can (will) do this...
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Post by redskyatnight on Aug 22, 2008 12:37:48 GMT -5
Congrats, honey....I know it doesn't feel like it, but you just hit a milestone. You are completely normal and justified. Hang in there. You can (will) do this... I agree on the milestone. Getting sick and tired of it means that you will be making changes.
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Post by kittenhart on Aug 22, 2008 13:00:06 GMT -5
I'm tired of thinking about it, tired of feeling betrayed, tired of wondering what now. I want to just forget about it already. I'm sick of feeling cynical and unsure that I will ever feel like that about someone else again. I'm tired of old memories intruding. I'm tired of being angry. It's officially a year now for me. I feel pretty much exactly the same...I've long since stopped talking about it to my family and most of my friends because I can tell they think I should be over it. And I should be. What a waste of my mental energy. I am improving though...so I try to give myself some credit for that. I'd love to just be able to wipe my mind clear at this point. I'm ready to just feel better about myself for even just a day and I'm so ready to be over him....any effing day now, would be good.
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Post by super on Aug 22, 2008 13:39:11 GMT -5
I often think that if he had talked to me and it had been mutual I would be over it now. If we had ended on good terms and if the lines of communication were open. I wanted out for ages too, but because it ended the way it did - lies, cheating, intentionally hurting me - this sting of betrayal just won't go away.
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Post by crushy on Aug 22, 2008 18:58:49 GMT -5
I can almost promise you, you will get to the point where it won't matter the way it ended. Trying to make sense of nonsense is impossible.
I spent a lot of time trying to figure out my ex. Then I spent time trying to figure out what he was thinking to be a step ahead of him legally regarding our sons. Ya know what? There is NO sense to his thinking and I'm just wasting time, energy and life. I can't wait until trailer-trash realizes how freaky it is he's so obsessed with me 5 yrs later?! She knows it, she's reading this. My life w/ my ex is like a book. Yep, there are MANY friends and family watching out for me. I realize I sound psycho or paranoid, but I took my sons to the dentist last week. As I'm signing the HIPPA agreement, I mention my ex's wife may call. The women at the desk went white and one told me she'd already called after I'd made their appt. Thankfully, the woman that answered had made the appts with me and so she gave no information. It's just sick. He left me almost 5 freaking years ago!!
If I didn't have a sense of humor, I'd be nuts because they have all of my personal information. So, I don't give my mom's real maiden name, my pet's name, the last 4 of my ssn. Of course, having a head injury, most of the time, I can't get my own damned information. Chase Bank SUCKS!! Keybank is kewl.
Again, you're justified. I think the fact you asked the question says you're on the brink of a break-through. Once you accept your picture of your future including him is gone, you will feel better. I don't think most of us literally miss 'them' as much as we mourn the picture of the future we thought we had.
You're awesome, you're so close...you probably can't see it, but those of us that have been there can practically taste it for you.
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Post by me on Sept 12, 2008 22:43:53 GMT -5
I know this has been posted a million times, but I really just need to vent! It's been 10 months since my break-up. I'm tired of thinking about it, tired of feeling betrayed, tired of wondering what now. I want to just forget about it already. I'm sick of feeling cynical and unsure that I will ever feel like that about someone else again. I'm tired of old memories intruding. I'm tired of being angry. I wish I didn't think about him, and want him to feel the same. He is just not worth my time!! It takes some time doesn't it. Especially after you have been betrayed. The memories don't fade so fast and you go in and out of love for them then hate for what they have done to you. It's a Catch22 In time you will not be "Tired of thinking about it" You'll be tired and done with him. Because you will "feel like that about someone else again." Trust me on that one.
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