Thank you, I really appreciate that! This week will be a busy one - Harry and my middle child are very sick now - Kori (the middle child) is on her second day home from school. Kitara (the oldest) is staying home today too - she says she is sick, I suspect it is as much about being "sick of school" as it is true illness. The bad part of all this is that my youngest is having her surgery in the morning - so I really don't want her to get sick - and she shares a room with the middle girl.
I have tomorrow and Thursday off - thursday I have more work being done on the rental. That is when the real work and expense begins on it, and I am NOT looking forward to it.
I started rehearsals last night for being Aunt Tilley in "It's a Wonderful Life" at our local community theater. How odd to come full circle this way - I first met Harry when he came to my town to see me in a show - three years ago this coming February.
Life is so busy, but I am more calm about it all - I will just do my best, that is all I can do.
Modified to add PS - I am also on week 3 of my own cold-like illness. Docs don't think I should do anything about it.
“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars..."
I promised an update to a friend awhile ago and just never made it back.
The hug issue - update above.
I started rehearsals for our local community theater's production of "It's a Wonderful Life". I am Aunt Tilley, which is actually a bigger role than in the movie, I am onstage a lot more than I expected. I LOVE my cast members, my "husband" Uncle Billy is a funny sweet guy (almost 64 - how old do they think I look?) One of the other cast members just graduated with her Masters in Social Work - I think we took a class together. One of the cast members also has a daughter that was diagnosed young with Generalized Anxiety Disorder - it is so good to hear she is now thriving at 21. One of them is getting divorced, dealing with custody issues - I will probably try to send him here. It is a fun group - I love getting the adult social interaction!
My oldest started rehearsals for her role as the Witch in Snow White at her middle school, and today is the last day of volleyball. It is interesting when she gets out of rehearsals at 6, and mine start at 6:30!
My middle is having difficulty adjusting back into school, since she was off all last week - the first 3 days due to illness, the other two the whole school was off. She is starting to sleep again, but Sunday and Monday nights were rough.
My baby didn't need her adenoids out, which means her constant runny nose is not from that, but either undetected allergies or something unexplained. Her ear tubes have helped with her hearing, but she does have occasional pain in them - but she had occasional pain before so it isn't so bad.
Harry quit that all night job - it was too hard on us, but he is having to scramble a little bit to find another one - we are really in trouble financially. He is plugging along in school - he only has two courses he needs to take next spring and he will be done with his AA.
I am replacing the furnace at the rental place (I hope) with a home energy loan - waiting to hear if the financing goes through today. There is still a lot of manual labor to do on the place, but I might be able to get it rented by Dec 1. If I can't - I will "freeze it" until spring, and be stuck with all the bills on our dwindling credit.
I am tired, only starting to get better from what has now been almost 4 weeks of a cold. I am trying to plan for a very uncertain future, while enjoying what I can of today. Some days are better than others, yesterday was pretty bad, but I have had some really good ones, too.
So... kids are having a bit of a hard time with me being gone to rehearsals, and I miss my family too. At the same time, I LOVE the cast, this is the BEST director, and the whole thing is so dang fun! I probably won't do it for a long time again, so I plan on enjoying it as much as possible.
My latest strain has been that I have to deal with a situation of possible abuse in one of my daughters' friends. I am going to try to set a meeting with the non-possibly-abusive parent to see if there is a protector there who just wasn't aware, or if it needs to go to the next step. This is a really touchy situation - I only have third-hand knowledge, but if it gets confirmed in any way I am a mandated reporter, and I will do what I have to do (even though my daughter will probably be mad at me). Perhaps the other parent isn't aware and will do something about it if made aware, perhaps the child is just trying to leverage to get more time with her non-custodial parent or is angry at the step-parent, perhaps it is even worse than my daughter knows. Whatever it is, I can't let it rest.
Oh - and the rental house loan went through - they are installing a new furnace and doing the plumbing today. Now we just have to do the manual work this weekend and I can ask for a reinspection. Then the yucky part begins. Not looking forward to this weekend.
Harry still doesn't have a job, which is difficult, but hopefully will hear something soon.
Well, the new furnace and plumbing is done, but the heat isn't on yet because apparently I need two different dang inspections before it can be turned on! UGH! The first coat of paint on the all black room went on, but it was too cold to set well so I had to leave a little space heater in there and we can go back... someday. We bought the replacement doors, and a coring kit to allow us to make the handle holes neater. Not it is just a matter of getting time (and energy) to go back. Probably next weekend, but then we have the kids - so yet another delay to renting.
The talk went really well. I really like that mom. She wasn't aware her daughter felt pain in the actions, because apparently when he does it it is as a "joke" and the daughter laughs at the time. She will be putting a stop to it. She also wasn't aware that he yelled at the daughter when she told her mom it hurt her - she will address that too. It also sounds like maybe the daughter is REALLY having a tough time discovering her "real" dad is a jack-a who doesn't really want her except when it is convenient and he calls to get his infrequent "visit" (no overnights even though he is 3 hours away) who also doesn't pay for ANYTHING for her care. But when she IS with the jerk, he is disneyland dad, so she can't understand why she can't be with him more (which might be why she resents the involved step-dad a bit). At any rate, the mom was resolved to talk to the daughter when they left our visit to do a trip, and she wants to let her know she can ALWAYS talk to her about everything. I am confident they will work it out - and I am hoping to do more outings together (it was FUN) and I also let my daughter know some ways she can help. For one thing - if her friend says she gets hurt again, check for bruises, if there is one, show her mom and go to the school nurse. She also can encourage her friend to tell the step-dad "NO, stop doing that, it hurts" quite clearly so he understands- I think he doesn't realize he is hurting her, or if he does, and is told stop and doesn't- it will hold a lot of weight with her mom. Laughing doesn't let him know he should stop. If he just isn't aware - that might be enough. If he IS doing it deliberately to hurt her, not stopping will be proof and if the mom doesn't stop him (I am pretty sure she would) then it is time to call it in. I am pretty confident they can turn it around themselves, though.
Whew. you once again show us how strong you are. To have that talk with the other parent must have been stressful. I am so glad there are parents like you out there. Ones that are willing to speak up and try to do what is right.
Thank you, Rocko - it really was super stressful - I made myself sick. Turned out great though, I think Kori was able to help her friend, and keep her (which isn't always the case when you deliver news like that); and I was able to stay friendly (if not get even more friendly) with a parent.
Freckles - we DID use the Kilz - LOVE that stuff. The black was so bad, though, we have to do another coat of primer. Ick.