Me niether Shattered. I will always think my ex is a POS, particularly as he continues to treat others the way he treated me. I don't think you have to "forgive" to move on. I will never be able to say to my ex "don't worry, what you did was OK" because it wasn't it was horrendous and cruel and he is not a good person. But I don't long for bad things to happen to him any more (well maybe a bit!).
You can move on without forgiveness, but I think there will always be a little taste of bitterness inside you which wasn't there before. I can live with that.
“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars..."
For me, forgiveness was not at all about "what you did was ok," because I'll never believe that. It was more about letting go of anger and resentment. Yes, his actions profoundly affected my life and left me with trust issues that I don't know if I'll ever fully overcome. But now I see him as just a man, an immature man, a boy, really, who acted out of weakness and selfishness -- not maliciousness. For me, gaining that perspective was what I considered forgiveness. And it it was only after doing that that I could let go and truly begin to move on.