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Hello All Nov 6, 2008 12:36:25 GMT -5

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Post by trip on Nov 6, 2008 12:36:25 GMT -5

It's been quite awhile since I have posted on here. I got married back in November to the love of my life. Everyone here knows what I went through back in '06 (Man it is hard to believe it was that long ago!) But, even though I often think of the crap that was done to me, I am over it and have been for quite some time now.

So why bring this up now? The ex came into my office yesterday and asked me a couple of "work" questions. I've often wondered what I would act like becasue I cant even stand to look at her, but i was quite civil and she even thanked me for my help in a very nice tone. (Like she has anything to be upset with me about!) Whe she took care of her business and came back down the hall toward me I noticed that she paused in the hall in front of my office like she was expecting for me to say have a nice day or something. I just kept working on whatever it was I was working and pretended not to notice her. IT was a great feeling. I know now that I am 100% over the entire situation. I stopped missing her a LONG time ago. I stopped thinking about her every day a LONG time ago. I've been over her for quite some time, but yesterday was a milestone. It was the finish line. It was a confirmation that I am able to handle that situation in a mature manner which is great to know.

I love my wife. I am happier than I ever have been before. That ordeal that happened back in '06 with the ex was small potatoes compared to my PTSD and severe depression from Iraq. Instead of turning against me, my wife has been by my side since day one. She says all the right things to me as if I placed the thoughts into her head. We are different yet we compliment each other perfectly. I am very fortunate, but I was always scared that I would never get over what happened to me a couple of years ago. Yesterday proved it. I never thought I could be civil to anyone who tried to hurt me. Its a great feeling to know I have that ability to that I can be the best man/husband that I can be to my wife.

Thanks for listening.

-trip

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Mel (cherry) God Posts: 831	Hello All Nov 6, 2008 12:51:35 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Mel (cherry) on Nov 6, 2008 12:51:35 GMT -5 Trip, nothing could have made me happier today, than reading this update from you. Kudos and many happy years to you my friend. And a HUGE CONGRATS on your nuptuals. Looks like you found the path and it looks fantastic!! ;D
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Hello All Nov 6, 2008 12:54:55 GMT -5

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Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 6, 2008 12:54:55 GMT -5

Hi'ya Trip!!

It's so good to see such a great post from you! I know that you had quite the battle before with how you might handle things and it sounds like you did amazing. I am so happy for you on being so lucky in finding such an amazing woman, she's sure lucky to have you to. Congratulations, again. Thanks for stopping by, it's good to know you haven't forgotten us all!!

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redskyatnight God My Muddy Buddies Posts: 681	Hello All Nov 6, 2008 13:28:38 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by redskyatnight on Nov 6, 2008 13:28:38 GMT -5 Thanks for sharing your story of success. It is wonderful to see and will give hope to everyone who reads it.
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Hello All Nov 6, 2008 15:13:51 GMT -5

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Post by shattered on Nov 6, 2008 15:13:51 GMT -5

Dear Trip,

I don't know you, but I wanted to tell you how wonderful it was to read this post.

I am so happy for you that you are in such an awesome place now.

Congratulations.

Also, I will never know how you were affected by your experiences in Iraq. But I do, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for your service to our country. And I wish the very very best for you, always.

Shattered

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trip
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Hello All Nov 6, 2008 15:36:48 GMT -5

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Post by trip on Nov 6, 2008 15:36:48 GMT -5

Nov 6, 2008 15:13:51 GMT -5 shattered said:

Dear Trip,

I don't know you, but I wanted to tell you how wonderful it was to read this post.

I am so happy for you that you are in such an awesome place now.

Congratulations.

Also, I will never know how you were affected by your experiences in Iraq. But I do, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for your service to our country. And I wish the very very best for you, always.

Shattered

Were you on OJAR? I used to be tripny2k6.

Which reminds me, I have no idea who half of you folks are by your new names!

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hoodieprincess Senior Member She's been everybody else's girl maybe one day she'll be her own. ~~Tori Amos Posts: 481	Hello All Nov 6, 2008 15:38:39 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by hoodieprincess on Nov 6, 2008 15:38:39 GMT -5 Nov 6, 2008 15:36:48 GMT -5 trip said: Which reminds me, I have no idea who half of you folks are by your new names! I have the same name... I'd hope you remembered me...(Since I was your wife before your wife! )
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trip
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Hello All Nov 6, 2008 15:41:30 GMT -5

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Post by trip on Nov 6, 2008 15:41:30 GMT -5

Nov 6, 2008 15:38:39 GMT -5 hoodieprincess said:

Nov 6, 2008 15:36:48 GMT -5 trip said:

Which reminds me, I have no idea who half of you folks are by your new names!

I have the same name...

I'd hope you remembered me...(Since I was your wife before your wife!

)

I never forget hotties!

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amola Senior Member Posts: 284	Hello All Nov 6, 2008 15:46:40 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by amola on Nov 6, 2008 15:46:40 GMT -5 hi trip......... i have to echo what shattered said, just about word for word. i was on ohell too, but it was back in the dark ages so it's ok if you don't remember me.
	could be worse...

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Hello All Nov 7, 2008 12:59:03 GMT -5

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Post by shattered on Nov 7, 2008 12:59:03 GMT -5

Nov 6, 2008 15:36:48 GMT -5 trip said:

Nov 6, 2008 15:13:51 GMT -5 shattered said:

Dear Trip,

I don't know you, but I wanted to tell you how wonderful it was to read this post.

I am so happy for you that you are in such an awesome place now.

Congratulations.

Also, I will never know how you were affected by your experiences in Iraq. But I do, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for your service to our country. And I wish the very very best for you, always.

Shattered

Were you on OJAR? I used to be tripny2k6.

Which reminds me, I have no idea who half of you folks are by your new names!

Nope, I was not on Ojar. I started reading Ojar around November 2007, but didn't join until it was Hugthat, in March 2008.

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Hello All Nov 8, 2008 6:51:11 GMT -5

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Post by crushy on Nov 8, 2008 6:51:11 GMT -5

Trip ~

I've wondered what came of you, but had no doubt it would be good. I am so happy for you. Your wife sounds wonderful.

I know it's naughty, but I bet your ex was just crushed after seeing you and you not reacting to her. Did she ever marry the father of her baby? Believe me, I know first hand, they have their challenges and what once was a wish of karma can quickly turn into pity.

Congrats and thanks for updating us on you and yours. ;D

Crushy

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Hello All Nov 8, 2008 23:31:10 GMT -5

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Post by LgHawaiian on Nov 8, 2008 23:31:10 GMT -5

I know I'm not around much, but I've been a silent observer when I find a few minutes here and there. I just wanted to say: Trip, your update is refreshing. I'm glad you've found someplace wonderful to be. What you said about your ordeal with your ex being "small potatoes" to your PTSD and time in Iraq had an impact on me, and it put things into a better perspective for me.

What I'm trying to say is: Thank you. Thank you for making that sacrifice. We all have our opinions on the war, but suffice to say that I am incredibly grateful to you and yours for all that you do.

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Hello All Nov 10, 2008 10:21:25 GMT -5

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Nov 8, 2008 6:51:11 GMT -5 @crushy said:

Trip ~

I've wondered what came of you, but had no doubt it would be good. I am so happy for you. Your wife sounds wonderful.

I know it's naughty, but I bet your ex was just crushed after seeing you and you not reacting to her. Did she ever marry the father of her baby? Believe me, I know first hand, they have their challenges and what once was a wish of karma can quickly turn into pity.

Congrats and thanks for updating us on you and yours. ;D

Crushy

It's really funny that you said that about pity. I do feel sorry for her. I mean, she made her bed, she made the choices, she now has to live with it. But it makes me feel sorry for her to know her history with how everything played out even though she did what she did. But, it is a little naughty but somewhat of a good feeling to know that I won. :-)

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ionysis Senior Member Posts: 331	Hello All Nov 12, 2008 0:54:58 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ionysis on Nov 12, 2008 0:54:58 GMT -5 Hi trip, so glad to hear you are happy and healthy. I've missed you!
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