What do u do...

[missu]

...when not talking to him gets u in a state of desperation and sick anxiety, and talking to him and seeing how he's happy and you're not in his life anymore just gets u so damn depressed?

[rocko]

I don't talk to him. Sometimes easier said than done...not so in my case.

[redskyatnight]

I find during very anxious times, Xanax works well. You have to get it from your Doctor and its addictive, so use it when the anxiety is keeping you up at night.

If the anxiety isn't terrible, I find walking or going to the batting cage helps. It's hard to be anxious when your body is exhausted from physical activity.

[gdgross]

You keep not talking to him.

It's really hard, and it sucks. But with time, it will get easier.

You also try to make yourself busy. Go out with friends, hang out more with your family, go to the gym, whatever it takes. Be as social as you can to take your mind off of things.

At least, that's how I see it.

[soupnazi]

Nov 19, 2008 13:04:40 GMT -5 missu said:

...when not talking to him gets u in a state of desperation and sick anxiety, and talking to him and seeing how he's happy and you're not in his life anymore just gets u so damn depressed?

You eventually pick up, move on. Hard facts to hear, but he is moving on, and you are keeping yourself from doing the same.
Start looking at it from that perspective...and you will be fine.

[missu]

Thanks guys. The part about getting physically exhausted to get thru the anxiety attack was very interesting. Thanks for that piece of advice.

I've found that actually coming to terms with the fact that it's really over is the hardest. We've broken up so many times before, but I can truly tell this is it. So yes, I'm beginning to "accept" that and even though it hurts like hell, I keep focusing on the good things to come. Like meeting someone new that will treat me the right way.

Moving on is the right answer. Thank u for the support.