Post by redskyatnight on Dec 10, 2008 9:43:54 GMT -5
gd-He cheated on me with his "adopted" Vietnamese sister, then two days later, had the audacity to say I needed to make up with her. I stayed for a year and a half trying to make it work. During that time, things went from bad to worse. He would wake me up at 12 am, 2 am 4 am to argue. That was when he wasn't pleasuring himself in bed next to me, shaking the entire bed. Oh, that was when he chose to sleep in bed with me. Most of the time, he slept downstairs cause he was too tired to come to bed after surfing Internet porn for hours each night.
So whatever this ring symbolizes to him, I don't think it is the real meaning of marriage.
How much time and energy is it worth? I'm not sure it is about time and energy really. I think its more about giving in to his name calling and ignoring the problem. He doesn't like it, so he resorts to saying very ugly things and then not doing anything. I kinda feel like if I give into that behavior, which I did in our marriage, then I'm not standing up for myself. I'm rolling over and showing my belly and I'm sick of it. I'm sick of him agreeing to one thing, changing his mind, then playing this passive-aggressive BS. I have to stand up to it.
Regarding the legal part, I could file a "Show Cause" today, but I haven't asked my lawyer to do that yet.
Wow. It's been almost 5 years since I walked in on him and 3.5 years since I left and I still have some anger about how he treated me. This ring thing is a perfect example of what I put up with, so it's bringing up old feelings. I'm fighting him on it because I'm sick of being taken advantage of. If I don't fight him, I'm right back to that person that let him walk all over me. I can fight him on this because I have the court to fall back on, so yes, in the long run, I do think it is worth the time and energy because I'll be stronger when it is done.
So whatever this ring symbolizes to him, I don't think it is the real meaning of marriage.
How much time and energy is it worth? I'm not sure it is about time and energy really. I think its more about giving in to his name calling and ignoring the problem. He doesn't like it, so he resorts to saying very ugly things and then not doing anything. I kinda feel like if I give into that behavior, which I did in our marriage, then I'm not standing up for myself. I'm rolling over and showing my belly and I'm sick of it. I'm sick of him agreeing to one thing, changing his mind, then playing this passive-aggressive BS. I have to stand up to it.
Regarding the legal part, I could file a "Show Cause" today, but I haven't asked my lawyer to do that yet.
Wow. It's been almost 5 years since I walked in on him and 3.5 years since I left and I still have some anger about how he treated me. This ring thing is a perfect example of what I put up with, so it's bringing up old feelings. I'm fighting him on it because I'm sick of being taken advantage of. If I don't fight him, I'm right back to that person that let him walk all over me. I can fight him on this because I have the court to fall back on, so yes, in the long run, I do think it is worth the time and energy because I'll be stronger when it is done.