Post by daryl on Jan 18, 2009 17:59:17 GMT -5
Hi everyone, its been a long while since i have visited the site and thought that i would give an update on my breakup that happened 2 years ago. Well if anyone is still around that remembers ,i was traumatised emotionally and did not believe that all these regrettable events had happened to me and my main concern was for my daughter that was just born at the time. She is now 2 years and 3 months old and loves me to bits although i am not a resident father. The ex eventually had to give up her fight with me as there was no retaliation from my side which was really painfull at times but i just continued on with my allocated visits of an hour and some times two hour a week.
The times i spend with my daughter now are almost daily and she often sleeps over at my place.The mother could not fathom why my daughter loves me so much and had to give in not to me but my daughter. I was still experiancing lots of emotional pain over our breakup and because nothing i did could relieve this hurt that i had inside of me for a long whille , even after an entire year of therapy and then medication , i eventually decided to take a different approach and tried hypnotherapy,however i did not go for sessions but instead decided to go for a course on this. I am now on my way to an international certification in hypnotherapy and it also helped me alot via self hypnosis.
My business is still doing well in spite of the global financial crunch and my ex has started to try and warm up to me again, I always have been ammicable and decent toward her in spite of all the lies and vindictive behaviour she has put me through, she will never be a part of my life again. I did not tell her this but she expects me to make the first move to get back with her which will never happen. It makes me sad sometimes when i think of it and i still feel hurt but i can never go through the things that she put me through again.
I have also learnt through all of this that there is actually no past nor is there any future--There is only the present. Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future makes one not enjoy the present. If we use the present positivley and try to enjoy it,we then build the foundation for a happy future which will at that time be our joyfull present. The only gift that god gives us isthe present of the present ;D so use it wisley and make positive changes.
I often think of all the people and so called friends that i have shared with my ex and all the stuff we got up to in our more youthfull days and it saddens me to think that all that history was soured by the end of our relationship.I will never be able to sit back and laugh with them about the good old days but then again the past does not need to effect our present life.Only we allow it to. My biggest challenge now is getting out there and meeting people again and forming new freindships and bonds and finding that someone special but i guess that will come with getting out of my new comfort zone which is living on my own. CHEERS FOR NOW.
The times i spend with my daughter now are almost daily and she often sleeps over at my place.The mother could not fathom why my daughter loves me so much and had to give in not to me but my daughter. I was still experiancing lots of emotional pain over our breakup and because nothing i did could relieve this hurt that i had inside of me for a long whille , even after an entire year of therapy and then medication , i eventually decided to take a different approach and tried hypnotherapy,however i did not go for sessions but instead decided to go for a course on this. I am now on my way to an international certification in hypnotherapy and it also helped me alot via self hypnosis.
My business is still doing well in spite of the global financial crunch and my ex has started to try and warm up to me again, I always have been ammicable and decent toward her in spite of all the lies and vindictive behaviour she has put me through, she will never be a part of my life again. I did not tell her this but she expects me to make the first move to get back with her which will never happen. It makes me sad sometimes when i think of it and i still feel hurt but i can never go through the things that she put me through again.
I have also learnt through all of this that there is actually no past nor is there any future--There is only the present. Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future makes one not enjoy the present. If we use the present positivley and try to enjoy it,we then build the foundation for a happy future which will at that time be our joyfull present. The only gift that god gives us isthe present of the present ;D so use it wisley and make positive changes.
I often think of all the people and so called friends that i have shared with my ex and all the stuff we got up to in our more youthfull days and it saddens me to think that all that history was soured by the end of our relationship.I will never be able to sit back and laugh with them about the good old days but then again the past does not need to effect our present life.Only we allow it to. My biggest challenge now is getting out there and meeting people again and forming new freindships and bonds and finding that someone special but i guess that will come with getting out of my new comfort zone which is living on my own. CHEERS FOR NOW.