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Post by finding on Feb 16, 2009 20:20:17 GMT -5
Being a moral or stable person in a kid's life is completely different than being a parent. Yes, a parent should be those things for a child, but a person stepping into a role in a child's life does not have the same rights and responsiblities as the parent does. I'm tired, and may come back to this tomorrow, but most likely not. I've had a busy day with my kids and supplying for their needs above and beyond cooking their dinner, baths, and what not while recovering from surgery. I hurt like hell, but stopped taking my pain pills because I need a clear head to provide what my kids need, work on my homework, get ready to go back to work a week too early, juggle appointments for my kids, and get my car fixed. My youngest has an appointment with a new allergist tomorrow. When I get back home my focus will be on him, not you. Yeah, I think we should revisit this tomorrow (sorry to hijack your thread, Freckles). Why do you think a stepparent doesnt have to help with homework, deal with surgeries, stopping pain pills, help with homework, juggle appointments, and get cars fixed??? I KNOW exactly what you have you are going through, because I have been there myself. And you know what, I didn't put any of those responsibilities or tasks on someone else because I wasn't the parent. I am not arguing with you, I really do think this is a good topic to discuss tomorrow. As a committed step-parent that loves my kids like they are my own, I really do want to explore this topic. Sorry it has taken me so long to get back to this. Things have been crazy around here. Being a parent is a responsibility that should not be entered into lightly. I made a choice to bring these kids into the world. It is my responsibility to take care of their needs, not someone else's. I know a step parent can provide a certain amount of support and love to a child, but they don't have the obligation, or the amount of love of a biological parent. People do not put the amount of work needed to make marriages work these days, when another person's children are added to the mix, the sucess rate of that marraige goes down drastically. If that marraige fails, the other parent is not obligated or given rights to be in the child's life. No, I don't think a stepparent should be treated like a second class citizen. The child should treat them with respect, consideration, and love, as should the stepparent towards the child.
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Post by freckles on Feb 22, 2009 18:25:54 GMT -5
My Sister had a Bar-b-q
So me and my Dad went over there (She and her son missed going to church)
She said her son had a headache on the way to Church so they did not go
Anyways there was a Pack of Teenagers in her sons room
THAT was why they did not go to Church
My Sister is starting to lie to me about her son
I called Her when I got home and was saying that:
All those Teen punks staying in his room all the time were going to bring Drugs into her house
And that would be bad
I was talking and I did not know it but, She had hanged up on me after about 30 seconds
I mean I will not mention he is a collage drop-out and will not work and all that
But, I will Point out that if He brings Punks to stay in his room all the time, then the Punks will get him hooked on Drugs and Alcohol and all that bad stuff
Even if I lose a Sister over me Pointing that out
There is Right way
And the Wrong way
I guess I will not be welcome at my Sisters house
Oh Well, next time her Furnace Goes out at 20 below zero I am sure they will Freeze before calling me
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Post by freckles on Feb 24, 2009 11:02:36 GMT -5
My Mom says dont belive a word modern teenagers say
Do not trust even one word out of them (She said you used to not trust 20 percent of what they say now trust nothing that they say)
The other Sisters kid tells Her mom she is going to a Trade Collage
My Mom told my Sister do not belive a word her kid says
Call the School and ask them if that is true
Because my Moms Grandkids have pulled to much crap
So My Mom said she will give none of them any Collage money until they have been in school a Year and must show their Grades to her or they dont get a dime (And I think she will call the School to confirm what they say)
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Post by c on Feb 24, 2009 11:54:26 GMT -5
I would destroy all the Video games As number 1 thing to do Is that a reasonble thing to do?
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Post by rocko on Mar 2, 2009 14:08:13 GMT -5
and to think I trust mine until they give me reason not to.
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Post by freckles on Mar 2, 2009 15:51:31 GMT -5
and to think I trust mine until they give me reason not to. The first signs were * Refusal to show collage report card/s Oh , I don't have English Class this Week , so I can take off and have fun (Saying that every other week, then every week) Next sign was Collage saying Get Your Stuff and Leave ! (By tomorrow) Now everyone has to walk on eggshells Dont say anything ! Everyone keeps saying
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Post by amola on Mar 3, 2009 10:03:49 GMT -5
But, I will Point out that if He brings Punks to stay in his room all the time, then the Punks will get him hooked on Drugs and Alcohol and all that bad stuff wow. maybe those punks were having their own bible study in his room since he wasn't feeling well enough to go to church. i didn't go to church a couple of weeks ago because i was sick. guess that means that i'm going to be hooked on drugs and alcohol too.
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Post by rocko on Mar 3, 2009 11:21:14 GMT -5
Amola, you should have went and got everyone else really sick. At least then you wouldn't be on drugs.
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Post by amola on Mar 3, 2009 13:14:26 GMT -5
yeah really!
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Post by freckles on Mar 3, 2009 14:47:29 GMT -5
I have given up
My Sister bought him a Pic-up for Collage
Another Sister gave him a Notebook Computer for Collage
My Mom gave him $1,200.00 for Collage
And more
And he does not even go to class
You can be a Genius like Einstein but if you refuse to walk in the classroom door
That will not work
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Post by redskyatnight on Mar 4, 2009 15:38:22 GMT -5
You can't MAKE him do anything, so giving up trying to make him go to college is good. Working in crap jobs for a few years might get him to change his mind.
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