2 of my Sisters kids just Blew Off Collage Feb 16, 2009 20:20:17 GMT -5
Post by finding on Feb 16, 2009 20:20:17 GMT -5
Being a moral or stable person in a kid's life is completely different than being a parent. Yes, a parent should be those things for a child, but a person stepping into a role in a child's life does not have the same rights and responsiblities as the parent does.
I'm tired, and may come back to this tomorrow, but most likely not. I've had a busy day with my kids and supplying for their needs above and beyond cooking their dinner, baths, and what not while recovering from surgery. I hurt like hell, but stopped taking my pain pills because I need a clear head to provide what my kids need, work on my homework, get ready to go back to work a week too early, juggle appointments for my kids, and get my car fixed. My youngest has an appointment with a new allergist tomorrow. When I get back home my focus will be on him, not you.
Yeah, I think we should revisit this tomorrow (sorry to hijack your thread, Freckles).
Why do you think a stepparent doesnt have to help with homework, deal with surgeries, stopping pain pills, help with homework, juggle appointments, and get cars fixed??? I KNOW exactly what you have you are going through, because I have been there myself. And you know what, I didn't put any of those responsibilities or tasks on someone else because I wasn't the parent.
I am not arguing with you, I really do think this is a good topic to discuss tomorrow. As a committed step-parent that loves my kids like they are my own, I really do want to explore this topic.
Sorry it has taken me so long to get back to this. Things have been crazy around here.
Being a parent is a responsibility that should not be entered into lightly. I made a choice to bring these kids into the world. It is my responsibility to take care of their needs, not someone else's. I know a step parent can provide a certain amount of support and love to a child, but they don't have the obligation, or the amount of love of a biological parent.
People do not put the amount of work needed to make marriages work these days, when another person's children are added to the mix, the sucess rate of that marraige goes down drastically. If that marraige fails, the other parent is not obligated or given rights to be in the child's life.
No, I don't think a stepparent should be treated like a second class citizen. The child should treat them with respect, consideration, and love, as should the stepparent towards the child.