Post by redskyatnight on Jan 30, 2009 10:41:48 GMT -5
Two bedroom, three boys.....hmmmm how do you divide it up? Having them share it all, stops the feeling of unfairness, as in, said with a whiney voice " How come he got his own room?"
On the other hand, they will be sharing everything, from bedroom to den and will have little privacy. I solved that in my apartment by putting up a room divider and creating a small private space. A small area rug, radio and a tiny end table completed their "private space" and was used often, but not all the time.
My boys now share a room for the first time ever. They were 10 & 6 when we moved in here. The first couple of months were a little rough, but they have adjusted well. I found the key for then to be decorating the room with both their interests in mind. Thank goodness they have pretty similar tastes. The room has airplane elements for the older boy, and train elements for the younger one, and each has their own toy box.
Alec and Kyle have ALWAYS shared a room. Even when I had enough room that they did not have to. They are really close and it works for them. I actually let Alec stay in J's room once for a week and Alec and Kyle fought more that week than they EVER have. Something about sharing a room makes them closer.
I just am not sure about putting them with a 10 year old in the same room, but it is only 4 nights a month that J is even with us and he doesn't go to bed until after they are asleep anyway.
It would be nice for them to have a den/place to put all of their toys and such.
I am still thinking on it. I just wanted to see if anyone has any bad experiences on why I should NOT do this.
If he is only there 4 nights a month I say try it and see how it goes. The extra room can be used for everyone, and set up kid friendly to be more inclusive.
I have one neighbor who is just fit to be tied because his ex wife is having their girls share a bedroom at her house. When I've asked him about it I can't get a reasonable response out of him. Of course he is an uptight snob who thinks he is better than everyone else. When I told him after I moved in here the boys started sharing a room his response was "no child of mine will ever share a room if I can help it".
I'm waiting for him to be knocked down a peg or two back to reality. He's the only person I've ever heard speak derragatory about kids sharing a room.
The 5 and 6 year old have never known any different. I could have had them separate bedrooms everywhere we have lived so far. I just chose to have them be shared. When they were infant/toddler age it was easier to go to one room and take care of both of them together. I do think that it has made them have a closer bond with each other.
my kids have always shared rooms but that has always been out of necessity. sarah and emily share (and sleep in the same bed even though they have 2 separate beds...grrrrr........), jared and alex share, and daniel has his own. more or less, that's probably the way that it's going to stay indefinitely. there aren't many other options with this house unless we put a crapton of money into finishing the attic, and i don't see that happening any time soon.
growing up, i never shared a room....but, out of the 6 of us i only ever lived with 2 sisters because the rest were older and had moved out by the time i came around.
Post by redskyatnight on Feb 5, 2009 14:34:21 GMT -5
My ex spends most of his time at his gf's house. Theyshare her bedroom with her two kids (both age 9). I think its a little weird, but I can't control what they do as long as they don't do it around my kids.
Supposedly, when my kids sleep at the gf's house, they sleep in the living room.