I don't know if it's just me, but it seems like spring fever for checking in around here. I've read several update threads from 'oldies' the last little while and loving it. Ionysis, blu, mel, hoodie and I don't even know who else.
I thought I'd start a thread summarizing who has moved on and checked back in recently.
Walt (Marfanoidus) and I, met on Ojar (4 1/2 yrs ago), are getting married on Friday in Austin, Texas. My nightmare of a custody battle is finally settling out of court and I got what I wanted & was somewhat fair, considering. My sons are glad (as much as teen boys express it). Life is better than ever.
SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!!!!!!! (The tagline that has seen me through it all.)
...and as long as it's not an invasion of privacy - if you know how other oldies are doing, please, indulge us...
Walt and I have no secrets. I wouldn't get married if we did. Why do you think it's been 4 1/2 freaking years for us?
I'm not going to get into it with you, but I will say only this...
1) I don't remember ANY kind of commitment between you and someone else on OJar. I think I know who you're talking about, but as I recall it, you were NOT together. In fact, he and I are still friends and if I cared to defend this, I'd call him. I've made friends w/ many men on Ojar, but not like you suggest. I can promise you, you would not have posted this if you were truly privy to EVERYTHING. I certainly know, I'm not.
2) Anyone that knows me (us), knows that Walt and I were on and off for the past 4 1/2 yrs (which means we were NOT always committed) because we waited until we feel we've worked through all of our stuff and had everything out on the table.
So, in answer to your question, yes, I do feel better.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope you and your son are well. I'd like to have heard how he is doing. I respect you (and others) too much to lash back at you here and disclose anything you've confided in me personally, let alone 2nd hand.
Again, this thread was intended not to invade anyone's privacy (or hurt anyone as we have all seen in the past). I didn't know it may be my own, but I still hope no one will refer to anything that was disclosed (or suggested) between any 2 adults on the phone, Ojar, Hugthat or otherwise. In my earlier, more vulnerable healing days, I was guilty of taking some things wrong only to find out, it was nothing as it appeared. I just hope we are all more patient with those that come here raw and exposed.
I personally know ladyJ that Crushy was totally sincere when she was your friend!!! But after this.....
First off, I am Tami's best friend and KNOW that she and Walt were on and off for a while, and whatever happens when they were not together, is no one else's business. They have put everything on the table, and are totally loyal to each!!! They have been totally honest with each other!
Secondly, why are you judging someone when you yourself have had these issues on here, and OJAR and everyone else STOOD up for you?!?
Thirdly, if Crushy has done anything out of character, I can understand... I have had pneumonia for the last week and been on ambien and have been warned by the dr's that people do things on this med that they do not remember, and I know that at one time Crush was on this med, but has been off it for a while and has been fine since. In fact it has been all over the national news that people that are on this medication do wierd things without remembering, and combine that with her head injuries..(which you should know about)..and any medication side effects are that much worse. BTW...here is the web site for side effects.... www.askapatient.com/viewrating.asp?drug=19908&name=ambien
I am not saying that she did or didn't do anything....but give me break...IF she did anything IT is in the past, where it should stay..
Last Edit: Feb 20, 2009 21:00:27 GMT -5 by loshyra
Thank you to all of you for your warm wishes and support. I appreciate it more than you know. We've been from hell and back with every kind of stress you can imagine.
For those who have asked why now, we had a horrible snow storm a week or so ago w/ some fatalities. As I was driving home in the dark, ice and snow the next night, I drove through the very spot where I nearly died 2 yrs ago and realized I was finally ready to make the commitment. Life is short and there was no longer anything holding us back.
At that moment, it hit me on a whole new level if something like this were to happen again, I'd be leaving my best friend without the benefits of being my partner such as insurance, pension, etc on a practical level and even more importantly, finally felt I was ready to be his wife, to take that final step of ultimate trust and commitment.
Post by kittenhart on Feb 20, 2009 18:26:04 GMT -5
Congrats to you and Walt, T!
Four and a half years is a long time but that is what you needed to "work through your own stuff" and I'm sure you have each done that... I'm also sure that you've been honest with each other about anything that happened on OJAR. Not that those things couldn't stay in the past now.
I wish you two every happiness- it has been a long time coming.
~ For us there is only the trying. The rest is not our business. ~
Thanks for posting that link, Loshyra. I didn't want to come across as defensive and start anything, but I appreciate someone that sees me regularly (the only Ojar person IRL other than Walt and I introduced you to Ojar), but someone that was there to support me when I was recovering from my accident as Walt was long distance. Remember when I hid out at work when the guy from Logan came in to take us to lunch? He was just a friend, but I was too private. PM me and let me know if you know how he's doing.
I hope this thread either dies or generates some happy, sincere (and appropriate) status on anyone that has come here for support.
Thanks, jules, I didn't mean to sound like I was separating Ojar users as the 'oldies'. I'd like to think of any of us that have history and friends here as oldies.
I'd like to add that any and all of you that have disclosed any personal information to me can always know it is indeed private, no matter the circumstances. (Thanks to no longer taking Ambien, I can 100% guarantee that. Trust me, don't take the junk.)