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Post by Dave on Jan 29, 2008 8:34:54 GMT -5
at what age is it not okay for a daughter to sleep in the same bed as her father?
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 8:39:33 GMT -5
De Ja Vu When a kid becomes a toddler... he/she should be in there own bed. (Minus the random thunderstorms.)
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Post by rocko on Jan 29, 2008 8:50:00 GMT -5
I have boys...once in a while one of them will sleep with me for a little bit, but I try to put them back in their own bed as soon as they fall back to sleep or take them back to their beds and lie with them until they fall asleep.
I had a problem with Alec (5 now) wanting to sneak into my bed all the time. I bought him new sheets and hung some cool things by his bed to make it more exciting. For a little bit I gave him a quarter every morning that he had stayed in his bed all night. Now he just stays in his bed unless he can't sleep and he will come wake me up.
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Post by Dave on Jan 29, 2008 9:09:32 GMT -5
my girls (8 and 10) will sleep in my bed every night if I let them, and I tend to let them about 75% of the time. I have been working under the assumption that they will decide when it isn't cool anymore.
I don't see any problem other than societal perceptions. However, given my profession this could be a real concern.
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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 9:17:42 GMT -5
i think it depends on your family. if that is something your girls are ok with (and obviously they are) then i dont really see a problem with it. although i DO think your being a teacher has a factor in it... what age kids do you teach?
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 9:19:53 GMT -5
Seriously your kids should not be sleeping in your bed. PERIOD It doesn't matter what you do for a living. Is this something that they have always done?
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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 9:23:46 GMT -5
dude, these are your kids, your family. you have to find out what is best for you guys, not someone else.
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Post by Dave on Jan 29, 2008 9:24:48 GMT -5
why not goods?
we have always done this.
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Post by rocko on Jan 29, 2008 9:28:48 GMT -5
When you do find someone you want to share your life with it will be harder on the girls.
I dont' see a problem with it once in a while.
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Post by Dave on Jan 29, 2008 9:31:21 GMT -5
i've thought about that,rocko, but i don't think I want to stop based on what "might happen in the future." I do not intend to "share my life" with anyone other than my girls for the forseeable future.
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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 9:35:29 GMT -5
at 8 and 10, they are getting ready to grow out of this anyway.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 9:40:03 GMT -5
OK I really really do not think this is healthy for them. The fact you don't see that.... there is nothing I can say that will get my point across. I will just say that it is a parent's job to teach their children how to be adults. Sharing a bed with your children... 8 and 10! is completely opposite of that. Also, what do you think you are teaching them about men... do not girls tend to want to date/marry someone like their father? Girls this age will soon been hitting puberty, YOU really need to have some freakin boundaries dude. This is like the stories of woman I hear breastfeeding their 5 year olds... CUT THE FREAKIN CORD and teach them how to be woman not babies.
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Post by Atl on Jan 29, 2008 9:40:33 GMT -5
My son sleeps in his toddler bed at his dad's house, but I can't seem to get him in his bed at mine. He says there are monsters in his room. Yet he has no problem playing in there.......he is 3 and will be 4 in May......he was sleeping in his own bed when we had our house. But since moving in w/ my parents he wants to sleep with me.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 9:44:37 GMT -5
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 9:45:44 GMT -5
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