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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 10:37:52 GMT -5
Attacking him? Well maybe I was a bit harsh... maybe not but I really think he is doing his kids a major disservice, when he first asked, I assumed the girls were 1, 2 maybe 3. But 8 and 10?!!! I can't believe anyone would think that was healthy for the kids. and i cant believe anyone would believe they might know more about whats best for someone elses kids. THAT is the part that bothers me so much with this goods. i would never presume to know what is best for your kid.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 10:43:14 GMT -5
That nonsense that Goods quoted is just that. Bullshit. Yeah MDs and PhDs are morons.
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Post by wizer on Jan 29, 2008 10:49:03 GMT -5
Yeah MDs and PhDs are morons. Goods, I know you mean well. But yes, many doctors are incompetent, many studies are flawed, and the majority of psychologists are more nuts than their patients. So don't believe everything you read. For every study that you find that says kids should be out of their parents bed by the time they are toddler age, I could find one that says it's ok up to the age of 10.
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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 10:51:57 GMT -5
and most good doctors will tell you above all else that you know whats best for your kids, you are the one that sees them everyday, not the doctor.
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Post by Dave on Jan 29, 2008 10:55:01 GMT -5
the reason i asked was more to see people personal experience with the issue. I love sleeping with my girls and do not believe they are being harmed in any way.
Goods, would it be okay if they were boys?
And what damage, exactly, do you think i might be doing? OR are you just concerned with the perception of molestation?
I think in this case we are safe to say that there is not innappropriate behavior going on unless you consider the simple act of sleeping and snuggling as innapropriate.
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Post by rocko on Jan 29, 2008 10:55:03 GMT -5
What about this simple bit of information??
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 11:03:41 GMT -5
Well I am not doctor... my step-dad is a RN, PhD Psychologist with a few more degrees that deals with school children. He actually is on contract to the three largest school systems in the area. My mom is a RN who worked in Labor/Delivery and was a HS School nurse. I have a extremely bright, centered, confident, independent 16 year old son. Who was 2 when I divorced his mother and spent 90% of the time with me as the custodial parent. I have/had a 12 year old step-daughter who I basically helped raise since she was 4. I have three younger sisters and one brother, three of which I helped raise as I was around 14 when the first was born. All of which are amazing successful college grads, (except for the youngest who grads this spring). All were raised to be independent, free thinking, loving, confident adults. But what the fuck would I know.
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Post by lumpy on Jan 29, 2008 11:04:33 GMT -5
That nonsense that Goods quoted is just that. Bullshit. Yeah MDs and PhDs are morons. Am I going MAD, or did an idea just escape your lips? You were not hired for your brains, you hippopotamic land mass.
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Post by Dave on Jan 29, 2008 11:05:42 GMT -5
i'm not saying you don't know anything - I am asking for specific knowledge which you have not given. I don't think.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 11:07:11 GMT -5
the reason i asked was more to see people personal experience with the issue. I love sleeping with my girls and do not believe they are being harmed in any way. Goods, would it be okay if they were boys? And what damage, exactly, do you think i might be doing? OR are you just concerned with the perception of molestation? I think in this case we are safe to say that there is not innappropriate behavior going on unless you consider the simple act of sleeping and snuggling as innapropriate. No it wouldn't be ok if they were boys... IMO you are using them as an emotional/comfort lifesaver to cover the loss of your wife. And no I am not worried about you molesting them... but IMO it is the job of a parent to teach children how to be independent adults.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 11:10:08 GMT -5
i'm not saying you don't know anything - I am asking for specific knowledge which you have not given. I don't think. ?? So links to articles written by professionals in the field and my personal experiences are not specific knowledge... could you give me an example of "specific knowledge"?
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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 11:10:37 GMT -5
Well I am not doctor... my step-dad is a RN, PhD Psychologist with a few more degrees that deals with school children. He actually is on contract to the three largest school systems in the area. My mom is a RN who worked in Labor/Delivery and was a HS School nurse. I have a extremely bright, centered, confident, independent 16 year old son. Who was 2 when I divorced his mother and spent 90% of the time with me as the custodial parent. I have/had a 12 year old step-daughter who I basically helped raise since she was 4. I have three younger sisters and one brother, three of which I helped raise as I was around 14 when the first was born. All of which are amazing successful college grads, (except for the youngest who grads this spring). All were raised to be independent, free thinking, loving, confident adults. But what the fuck would I know. i would say that you know a lot about what is best for you, your kids, and maybe your family. but i would not say that you would know whats best for someones kids that you dont even know.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 11:13:54 GMT -5
Well I am not doctor... my step-dad is a RN, PhD Psychologist with a few more degrees that deals with school children. He actually is on contract to the three largest school systems in the area. My mom is a RN who worked in Labor/Delivery and was a HS School nurse. I have a extremely bright, centered, confident, independent 16 year old son. Who was 2 when I divorced his mother and spent 90% of the time with me as the custodial parent. I have/had a 12 year old step-daughter who I basically helped raise since she was 4. I have three younger sisters and one brother, three of which I helped raise as I was around 14 when the first was born. All of which are amazing successful college grads, (except for the youngest who grads this spring). All were raised to be independent, free thinking, loving, confident adults. But what the fuck would I know. i would say that you know a lot about what is best for you, your kids, and maybe your family. but i would not say that you would know whats best for someones kids that you dont even know. Again I thought he was asking opinions.... I didn't realize coming into the thread and saying... I have an opinion but you should just do what you think is best for you and your family was the PC thing to say. I have an idea erf, you are a teacher, talk to fellow teachers and your school councilors, tell them the situation and get their opinions.
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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 11:16:01 GMT -5
i would say that you know a lot about what is best for you, your kids, and maybe your family. but i would not say that you would know whats best for someones kids that you dont even know. Again I thought he was asking opinions.... I didn't realize coming into the thread and saying... I have an opinion but you should just do what you think is best for you and your family was the PC thing to say. I have an idea erf, you are a teacher, talk to fellow teachers and your school councilors, tell them the situation and get their opinions. the 'pc' thing to say? are you serious? because i am soo freakin pc. im talking about general respect. there is a way to go about telling someone that you think what they are doing isnt the best thing, and you were way of the mark. why are you getting so worked up?
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Post by rocko on Jan 29, 2008 11:19:59 GMT -5
erf asked for opinions, goods gave his, jc is bashing him for not agreeing with her.
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