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Post by finding on Feb 18, 2008 20:30:34 GMT -5
I heard some tips the other day for women to attract a man. The biggest one was to change your hairstyle. If you have shorter hair they said to grow it out and to style your hair in long smooth layers. A group of women stating how to attract a man.
I'm all for looking your best, but what is this about? Are we all supposed to look the same? What about the differences we all have? Are we supposed to hide these differences and who we are just to attract a mate? Isn't that lying? And where is it stated we have to have someone in our lives to be whole?
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Post by ionysis on Feb 18, 2008 23:37:15 GMT -5
Agreed.
The problem is it works.
I have a fabulous group of single girlfriends out here - there are about 12 of us in all. They are ATTRACTIVE smart, funny, intelligent, professional women (lawyers, engineers, bankers) who look after themselves - do hair, makeup, nails regularly etc... I simply cannot understand why we are all single. There is ONE common factor - we are all between ten and twenty pounds overweight - and I don't mean mega huge here, I'm talking about US sizes 10 - 14.
But when you look at my girlfriends who are NOT single they are uniformly: 1. thin 2. pretty / feminine looking (long hair, skirts etc.)
OR if they don't fall into those 2 categories they are with someone hideous / EXTREMELY overweight / a complete asshole - or all of the above.
To get the "good" guys it appears that you just have to be thin and pretty; your intellect, sense of humour, capabilities and personality will always come a very definite second to your looks as a woman. I even find this in business - women who are attractive to men have an easier time in the world generally speaking - or at least a huge unearned advantage. I see it on a daily basis.
I suppose its a question of odds. There is a certain look that the majority of men find attractive therefore if you conform to this look then you have the biggest pool of potential mates to choose from. There ARE men who prefer women with short hair, or big asses or glasses but there are less of them so you have lower odds of hooking up with one. The dating game is a numbers game.
Let's all enjoy this shallow world of human nature.
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Post by freckles on Feb 19, 2008 0:08:34 GMT -5
Agreed. The problem is it works. I have a fabulous group of single girlfriends out here - there are about 12 of us in all. They are ATTRACTIVE smart, funny, intelligent, professional women (lawyers, engineers, bankers) who look after themselves - do hair, makeup, nails regularly etc... I simply cannot understand why we are all single. There is ONE common factor - we are all between ten and twenty pounds overweight - and I don't mean mega huge here, I'm talking about US sizes 10 - 14. But when you look at my girlfriends who are NOT single they are uniformly: 1. thin 2. pretty / feminine looking (long hair, skirts etc.) OR if they don't fall into those 2 categories they are with someone hideous / EXTREMELY overweight / a complete asshole - or all of the above. To get the "good" guys it appears that you just have to be thin and pretty; your intellect, sense of humour, capabilities and personality will always come a very definite second to your looks as a woman. I even find this in business - women who are attractive to men have an easier time in the world generally speaking - or at least a huge unearned advantage. I see it on a daily basis. I suppose its a question of odds. There is a certain look that the majority of men find attractive therefore if you conform to this look then you have the biggest pool of potential mates to choose from. There ARE men who prefer women with short hair, or big asses or glasses but there are less of them so you have lower odds of hooking up with one. The dating game is a numbers game. Let's all enjoy this shallow world of human nature. They are most likely stuck up All they have to do is Smile and be Friendly Wink and Flirt
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Post by rocko on Feb 19, 2008 16:43:35 GMT -5
I grew my hair out because my exh (husband at the time) would not SHUT UP about it. My hair was never really short (always past my shoulders). Anyway, after I grew it out I noticed that more guys noticed me. A LOT more guys. Maybe it is a nature thing.
like with female lions they prefer male lions with more blondish or blackish (I cannot remember which one) manes. They will reject males with the other.
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Post by gdgross on Feb 19, 2008 18:17:50 GMT -5
I grew my hair out because my exh (husband at the time) would not SHUT UP about it. My hair was never really short (always past my shoulders). Anyway, after I grew it out I noticed that more guys noticed me. A LOT more guys. Maybe it is a nature thing. I really don't give a rip about hair length. And frankly, I don't understand why guys care about that. I doesn't make sense to me. If it's a nature thing, then I must be unnatural. There's a few girls I know who I think are totally hot who have short hair. I won't lie, though. Overweight is less attractive to me than right-weight. Maybe I'm a product of the shallow culture we live in or perhaps I'm shallow myself. I don't know. But I know what I like.
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