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Post by finding on Mar 2, 2008 11:02:39 GMT -5
Thanks Ionysis. I talked to a friend about this last night. She assured me that things are ok and that it seems the biggest source of confusion for me is that he is so different from anyone I have ever dated. She made a good point ~ which is better in the long run, someone like this or what I have had in the past? I knew the answer without hesitation.
We are going to have to have a pretty serious talk when he gets back from his snowboarding trip. I'm scared though. Before things go much further I need to know his stand on having kids. We are both 33. I have 3 kids (which he knows about) and he doesn't have any. I need to know how important it is for him to have his own biological kids because that is something I can't do anymore before I really start to fall for him.
I got my heart broken last summer when someone decided that they wanted more kids and I couldn't give them that. I know he is not this other person, and I won't project that onto him, but I can't go through that hurt again.
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Post by Dave on Mar 2, 2008 11:46:10 GMT -5
My 2 cents: If a ONS turned into a second date followed by a "pretty serious talk" about my "stand on having children" I would wondering WTF. Are you thinking a little farther ahead than you need to be?
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Post by finding on Mar 2, 2008 12:00:50 GMT -5
I know you are right fre. I'm a bit freaked right now, I never thought I would find someone that I would actually like to spend time with. I'm thinking outloud so to speak. Eventually that talk will have to happen. I'm overanalyzing things and I know it. See, that's what you guys are for, to keep me grounded. I don't want to blow it with this one. The next move is on his part, now I just sit and wait. Did I mention waiting is not fun? ;D
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Post by wizer on Mar 2, 2008 12:31:12 GMT -5
My 2 cents: If a ONS turned into a second date followed by a "pretty serious talk" about my "stand on having children" I would wondering WTF. Are you thinking a little farther ahead than you need to be? Totally agree. It's TWO dates! If a girl wanted to have a serious talk with me, on a subject about how I feel about having children some day I would run for the hills. Jeez girl, in IM we agreed you are impatient. Get a handle on it before you lose a live one.
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