Do I think she would like for us to hook up and move in with me? Probably would if I asked. But she knows my situation and that I am not emotionally available for another relationship. Happy just to hang out and have fun together. Take it one day at a time.
Seems to me your approach might be part of the problem. I'm thinking you might want to develop a relationship before you move in together and start playing house.
Now there is this one russian beauty I know. She lived with my former best friend about 12 years ago. Recently called me up and we started hanging out together. Had heard what happened to me through the grapevine here in town.
Now she has been through hell. Been from guy to guy over the years and they've all cheated on her and a couple of them even beat her. Works a $30,000/yr job while renting a place on her own with 2 kids (11 and 7). Can she take care of herself? I don't know. Do I feel sorry for her and what's happened to her in the past? Yes I do. Do I think she would like for us to hook up and move in with me? Probably would if I asked. But she knows my situation and that I am not emotionally available for another relationship. Happy just to hang out and have fun together. Take it one day at a time.
I can see you following the same pattern of wanting to be someone to "rescue" a damsel in distress. Is it possible that you are attracted to women who are somewhat needy in one way or another because it makes you feel good?
(Btw, I totally get the Russian appeal. I've had a thing for Russian men forever...)
I don't go out looking for them. They seem to find me. There is no shortage of available women in this town. Problem is that most of them are golddiggers or just plain trashy.
Maybe the problem is that only needy women are attracted to me? If so, then why? Have to dwell on that one for a while.
Look everyone, I've obviously got big trust issues combined with a soft heart. Maybe I'm needy too. Never said I was a whole person. I'm hurting like the rest and that's what brought me here.
I'm just sick and tired of the whole scene. It's not worth the risk of putting your heart in a blender hoping they don't hit the button. That's what marriage is. You've given that person the keys to your heart and they have the ability to build you up or tear you down. Why give a woman that power? I spent Christmas by myself this year and I don't ever want to feel that level of pain again.
Post by blazinheart on Jan 10, 2008 23:13:24 GMT -5
Regardless, I'm still through with American women. I'm off to Brazil!!!
Trying to find a decent woman with character in America is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. But it's the same for women trying to find a decent man.
The stogie he brazenly lit where he sit looked legit, but when the flame touched on the tip I could smell it's of another knit. He leaned his head back and inhaled the newpie dip and said "The whole design got my mind cryin', if I'm lyin' I'm dyin'..shit"