super
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Post by super on Jan 10, 2008 1:33:45 GMT -5
I don't know if this should go in dating or here, but I can't hold it in anymore! I went home with someone on Saturday that I had met a couple times previously. We had met very soon after my break up, and I thought he was nice and was interested, but have been too messed up to think anything else. On Saturday we were with separate friends and ran into each other. Of course, I was not exactly sober and I went home with him . The thing is we are going to see each other again in a sober setting and I'm so annoyed with myself. This just makes things more complicated Especially because I don't want to let myself get attached to anyone in this vulnerable state. Argh! Why did I have to make things so complex with someone nice. And why do I have to meet someone nice right now!? The weird thing is, there were no awkward moments the next morning. I really like him...and I'm so not ready for that. I guess I'll have to see what happens, cause maybe nothing will. In the meantime I'll just keep banging my head against the wall. I will also be cutting down on the drinking, though I seem to make bad decisions when I'm sober too
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Post by ionysis on Jan 16, 2008 2:58:40 GMT -5
Oh Super, don't worry. I've screwed up SO many times this year going through everything. I've gone home with people I didn't want to - even had relationships with people I didn't actually like. I've also screwed up with people I did actually like because I wasn't ready and have ended up in bed with good male friends because of over-consumption of alcohol and my head being such a mess. Often it is just part of what we have to go through to get out the other side of this mess.
Forgive yourself - it happens. The worst thing you can do is make yourself feel bad over it. Maybe even give yourself permission to do things you wouldn't usually dream of doing. But whatever - do NOT let it impact your self esteem. Getting drunk and ending up in bed with someone does not make you a bad person in any way at all.
And drink less - alcohol is so, so bad for my impulse control abilities (wish I could have taken my own advice!)
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crystal025
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"What's meant to be will ALWAYS find a way!"
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Post by crystal025 on Jan 16, 2008 10:48:02 GMT -5
Exactly as ionysis said, forgive yourself. I've been there too. Keep it casual, have fun, be aware, but allow yourself to make mistakes if that happens. Live and learn my dear.
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