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Mar 5, 2008 13:23:15 GMT -5
Post by finding on Mar 5, 2008 13:23:15 GMT -5
I was talking to someone earlier and they made the comment to me that they don't understand why I am single. WTF? I reminded them of the boys and my ex. I was told those things don't matter and there is no reason for me to be single and they listed off a bunch of things I don't see in myself. I don't know, maybe I am blind, but I don't see what others seem to see in me. I don't see myself as a catch or anything special at all. Am I wrong or are they?
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Mar 5, 2008 13:28:57 GMT -5
Post by sheyd on Mar 5, 2008 13:28:57 GMT -5
I wouldn't say you are WRONG - you are just missing the whole picture - focusing on the negatives. YOU love your kids, so would someone invested in your family. YOU are worth getting invested in... so yeah, you are a catch!
Shey
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Mar 5, 2008 13:59:57 GMT -5
Post by Dave on Mar 5, 2008 13:59:57 GMT -5
I'd hit it. ;D
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Mar 5, 2008 14:50:06 GMT -5
Post by freckles on Mar 5, 2008 14:50:06 GMT -5
I like you
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Mar 6, 2008 12:10:27 GMT -5
Post by JimB on Mar 6, 2008 12:10:27 GMT -5
I reminded them of the boys and my ex. I was told those things don't matter and there is no reason for me to be single and they listed off a bunch of things I don't see in myself. Care to share any of the things on that list? I'm interested in hearing what this person had to say.
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Mar 6, 2008 14:02:14 GMT -5
Post by redskyatnight on Mar 6, 2008 14:02:14 GMT -5
Instead of feeling confused that you don't understand what they meant, just smile and think that you are humble and modest. Those are amazing qualities all by themselves.
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Mar 6, 2008 14:05:12 GMT -5
Post by finding on Mar 6, 2008 14:05:12 GMT -5
I reminded them of the boys and my ex. I was told those things don't matter and there is no reason for me to be single and they listed off a bunch of things I don't see in myself. Care to share any of the things on that list? I'm interested in hearing what this person had to say. That I am beautiful (I don't see that at all, and as a matter of fact when I hear it the first thing that goes through my mind is what do they want). I'm smart, funny, have a great laugh, and have a lot to offer someone, and they don't understand why I am single. The only thing on the list I agree with is that I am smart. Hell, I'm putting in a half assed attempt with my MBA and I'm still getting A's and B's. When I walked last June for my Bachelor's I was .3 of a percentage point from walking with honors, this after two years of the ex putting me through shit and two boy's with health problems. Maybe I am cynical, but this is the one thing I know and think I have going for me.
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Mar 6, 2008 14:31:28 GMT -5
Post by redskyatnight on Mar 6, 2008 14:31:28 GMT -5
Perhaps you are just starting to blossom with a flower so big that the world is just starting to see it.
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Mar 6, 2008 14:39:45 GMT -5
Post by rocko on Mar 6, 2008 14:39:45 GMT -5
remember thinking who would want a single divorced mom with two boys (ages 1 and 2 at the time). I couldn't see how others saw me.
From what I know of you...I think all he said is true.
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Mar 6, 2008 14:54:41 GMT -5
Post by JimB on Mar 6, 2008 14:54:41 GMT -5
[That I am beautiful (I don't see that at all, and as a matter of fact when I hear it the first thing that goes through my mind is what do they want). I'm smart, funny, have a great laugh, and have a lot to offer someone, and they don't understand why I am single. You haven't said a lot about this person who said this to you. Is this someone you trust? No ulterior motives? I assume it is someone you trust, because I doubt you would have brought it up otherwise. So given that, is it so hard just to take them at their word? You don't really have to agree - just acknowledge that the world is full of opinions, and your friend's opinions of you are just as valid as your own. (This approach has the added benefit of not making your friends feel like crap because you don't believe what they say.) Sometimes people are nice because they want something, but I believe they're more often nice because they care about you. And people who care about you (at least in my experience) don't generally express that by telling you a bunch of lies. So if you can't accept all this as truth, just be gracious and validate the opinion.
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