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Post by finding on Jan 23, 2008 23:19:55 GMT -5
I would play it out and watch them hang themselves knowing I had nothing to do with it.
Me, I'm currently carrying a big secret that if the wrong person(s) got wind of would destroy things for the kids and I. Sometimes secrets or lies are needed for self preservation, though I do believe for the most part that honesty is the best policy.
The people who can ruin this for us will not know about the secret until there isn't anything they can do about it.
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Post by murdock on Jan 26, 2008 1:05:53 GMT -5
if you are not honest, you are risking them finding out and then they will ABSOLUTELY never trust you again, but hey... what they don't know can't hurt them>>> right? WRONG!
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Post by finding on Jan 26, 2008 1:17:26 GMT -5
if you are not honest, you are risking them finding out and then they will ABSOLUTELY never trust you again, but hey... what they don't know can't hurt them>>> right? WRONG! If that is directed towards me, I haven't lied to them in the past, though they think I have and accuse me of it frequently. What I am doing is self preservation. My "secret" is nothing illegal, nor is there anything wrong with it. They will just not approve because it isn't what they want and will do what ever they can to put a stop to it, even though it is in the kids and I's best interest. Those who do know agree it is in our best interest to let those whom can keep this from happening from knowing. Full discloser is not always the best policy. In this case if they were to know it would be "what they do know would hurt us". I would rather keep this secret instead of hurting myself and my kids.
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Post by murdock on Jan 26, 2008 1:21:54 GMT -5
Not directed at you... just responding with an opinion.
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Post by murdock on Jan 26, 2008 1:24:21 GMT -5
actually that reminds me of a situation that I was involved in recently. I was caught up in an ugly situation where had I come clean and told the truth I would have screwed myself and the people I care about. I held out, but I felt like a sitting duck - which for me was absolute torture!!! In the end I got to speak my peace.... so, I agree... Timing is EVERYTHING!
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Post by finding on Jan 26, 2008 11:57:03 GMT -5
actually that reminds me of a situation that I was involved in recently. I was caught up in an ugly situation where had I come clean and told the truth I would have screwed myself and the people I care about. I held out, but I felt like a sitting duck - which for me was absolute torture!!! In the end I got to speak my peace.... so, I agree... Timing is EVERYTHING! The truth will eventually come out, but only when it can't hurt the kids and I. I don't like doing this, but it is what we need to do for now. I would much rather have my plans out there for the world to know, but certain people don't agree with it and would do their part to keep it from ever happening.
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Post by rocko on Jan 26, 2008 19:29:24 GMT -5
actually that reminds me of a situation that I was involved in recently. I was caught up in an ugly situation where had I come clean and told the truth I would have screwed myself and the people I care about. I held out, but I felt like a sitting duck - which for me was absolute torture!!! In the end I got to speak my peace.... so, I agree... Timing is EVERYTHING! The truth will eventually come out, but only when it can't hurt the kids and I. I don't like doing this, but it is what we need to do for now. I would much rather have my plans out there for the world to know, but certain people don't agree with it and would do their part to keep it from ever happening. I dont know what it is you are speaking of, but i would bet I would do the same thing in the same situation.
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