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Post by sheyd on Mar 12, 2008 13:34:24 GMT -5
Is it a good idea? Does it work? Discuss...
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Post by jules on Mar 12, 2008 13:37:35 GMT -5
Depends on the level to which you take it. Can I use revenge to justify doing something that I wouldn't normally be able to morally justify doing? No. Because at the end of the day, I'm the one who has to live with my own actions, their consequences, and any resulting feelings. I prefer to hang onto my integrity.
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Post by goods on Mar 12, 2008 13:49:31 GMT -5
I was in the revenge business, Saucy helped get me out, if I would have stayed in it, my life and the lives of others would be very different. I was in a very dark place and found that I was capable of much. Getting out was the best thing I could have done for myself. I wouldn't recommend revenge for anyone, it will not make you feel better, only worse. And you risk much.
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Post by jules on Mar 12, 2008 13:50:48 GMT -5
though on a lighter note, i did recently hear the best revenge story ever. ;D
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Post by murdock on Mar 12, 2008 13:51:22 GMT -5
I believe that success is the best revenge.
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Post by cdngurl on Mar 12, 2008 13:53:32 GMT -5
what's that saying? something like revenge ending up being a poison to yourself... or bitterness or something?
help?
I stop bitter and vengeful thoughts because I"m afriad they'll attract bad karma.. plus they poison me, not the other person.
Actual revenge might be a temporary fix, but would likely leave someone with a "bad hangover" feeling..
and really - if someone f*cked you over - they will either regret it or not.. revenge won't make that happen.. it'll just make you look bad.
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Post by finding on Mar 12, 2008 13:53:33 GMT -5
I watched my ex spew out revenge on me for my so called sins. It ate him alive and he tried to destroy the lives of his kids just to hurt me. In the end his seeking revenge took his life.
All of his actions caught up to him and he couldn't handle the backlash, and he took his own life.
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Post by murdock on Mar 12, 2008 13:56:42 GMT -5
I watched my ex spew out revenge on me for my so called sins. It ate him alive and he tried to destroy the lives of his kids just to hurt me. In the end his seeking revenge took his life. All of his actions caught up to him and he couldn't handle the backlash, and he took his own life. wow... I never knew this. Sorry for your pain and loss.
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Post by sheyd on Mar 12, 2008 14:01:49 GMT -5
Ok... so if it isn't ok to seek revenge - does that make it ok to be bad to someone if they have been bad? Is that the same or a different thing?
Shey
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Post by finding on Mar 12, 2008 14:06:01 GMT -5
I watched my ex spew out revenge on me for my so called sins. It ate him alive and he tried to destroy the lives of his kids just to hurt me. In the end his seeking revenge took his life. All of his actions caught up to him and he couldn't handle the backlash, and he took his own life. wow... I never knew this. Sorry for your pain and loss. It's not my loss anymore, it's my children's, but as aweful as it is to say they are better off without him in their lives. It's been almost a year since I temporarily lost custody of the kids to the state because of his lies and accusations. He was hellbent on making me pay because I wouldn't sign my rights to the kids over so he could move them to Florida to be with his girlfriend that he cheated on me with. I proved the allegations wrong, and got the kids back and he lost all rights to them but supervised visitations. Three weeks after I got the kids back, and two weeks after the divorce was finalized he was dead, partly because the state was going to prosecute for things he did and the lies he spewed. So in short, revenge doesn't pay, it is like a cancer that eats you alive.
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Post by finding on Mar 12, 2008 14:08:07 GMT -5
Ok... so if it isn't ok to seek revenge - does that make it ok to be bad to someone if they have been bad? Is that the same or a different thing? Shey Define bad. No, I don't think you should go out of your way to be mean, but that doesn't mean you should forget about what they did to you and pretend it didn't happen. Standing up for yourself is not the same as revenge.
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Post by sheyd on Mar 12, 2008 14:09:35 GMT -5
Define bad. No, I don't think you should go out of your way to be mean, but that doesn't mean you should forget about what they did to you and pretend it didn't happen. Standing up for yourself is not the same as revenge. I mean talking badly, acting mean back, etc. Is that standing up for yourself or just revenge?
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Post by murdock on Mar 12, 2008 14:11:41 GMT -5
If a man cheats on you.... go have a threesome with his two best friends. Just an idea.
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Post by jules on Mar 12, 2008 14:14:55 GMT -5
If a man cheats on you.... go have a threesome with his two best friends. Just an idea. that sounds a lot like the awesome revenge story i referred to above.
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Post by jules on Mar 12, 2008 14:16:58 GMT -5
Define bad. No, I don't think you should go out of your way to be mean, but that doesn't mean you should forget about what they did to you and pretend it didn't happen. Standing up for yourself is not the same as revenge. I mean talking badly, acting mean back, etc. Is that standing up for yourself or just revenge? In a sense it is similar to revenge. Revenge for poor treatment of oneself or others. Again, at the end of the day you only have to live with yourself. I wouldn't want to think of myself as being a petty, mean person. But that's just me. Everyone has different standards for him or herself.
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