Post by super on Jan 2, 2008 20:56:27 GMT -5
So, I have never dated before except highschool. It was just this one long term relationship for me. I need some input on this situation because I have no past experiences to compare it to.
I met someone online. We went out once on a Tues to a pub for dinner and a couple of drinks. Then we went to his place and watched a movie (it was my suggestion to go there after he mentioned having a DVD he hadn't seen yet, I wasn't thinking about the message that my send). He kissed me goodnight as I left and asked if I wanted to see him again before I left for Xmas on Monday.
We ended up seeing eachother on Friday and just went to his house to watch a movie. So then we made out (how junior high to type that!), which he instigated and then I ended up staying over. No sex, just staying over. When I left Sat morning I said I would let him call me, he said okay. I also said let me know if you want to see eachother again before I leave, not thinking and he was surprised (freaked out?) at that.
I left on the Monday (Xmas Eve) and haven't heard from him. I did text him the Sat night just saying had a good time, whatever and he didn't respond. He is leaving the day after I get back for 10 days.
I am very confused right now. I don't seem to have any physical boundaries. I'm not sure what's too much for me. I liked him, he seemed nice, but would never date him seriously. He doesn't treat me the way I'd expect to be treated in a relationship (basic manners are lacking).
I guess I just want some general input. I wonder if he'll contact me or if I should contact him. I wonder how to figure out my boundaries and how to act on a date. Argh! I am a dating virgin...
I met someone online. We went out once on a Tues to a pub for dinner and a couple of drinks. Then we went to his place and watched a movie (it was my suggestion to go there after he mentioned having a DVD he hadn't seen yet, I wasn't thinking about the message that my send). He kissed me goodnight as I left and asked if I wanted to see him again before I left for Xmas on Monday.
We ended up seeing eachother on Friday and just went to his house to watch a movie. So then we made out (how junior high to type that!), which he instigated and then I ended up staying over. No sex, just staying over. When I left Sat morning I said I would let him call me, he said okay. I also said let me know if you want to see eachother again before I leave, not thinking and he was surprised (freaked out?) at that.
I left on the Monday (Xmas Eve) and haven't heard from him. I did text him the Sat night just saying had a good time, whatever and he didn't respond. He is leaving the day after I get back for 10 days.
I am very confused right now. I don't seem to have any physical boundaries. I'm not sure what's too much for me. I liked him, he seemed nice, but would never date him seriously. He doesn't treat me the way I'd expect to be treated in a relationship (basic manners are lacking).
I guess I just want some general input. I wonder if he'll contact me or if I should contact him. I wonder how to figure out my boundaries and how to act on a date. Argh! I am a dating virgin...