tko
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Post by tko on Mar 19, 2008 20:33:38 GMT -5
"I just like snuggling on his couch and smelling his cologne, his snarky sense of humor, and the way he makes me laugh."
That is so sweet. I'm needing those darn tissues again.
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Post by finding on Mar 19, 2008 20:41:32 GMT -5
"I just like snuggling on his couch and smelling his cologne, his snarky sense of humor, and the way he makes me laugh." That is so sweet. I'm needing those darn tissues again. I don't know if you would think it is sweet if you saw his sense of humor in action. Last night he took me out to his backyard to show me all the work he is doing on it and what his plans are. I stepped out the sliding glass door and he told me "See ya", I won't mention what happened with my beer. He keeps me on my toes, and I kind of like it. The evening ended with us dancing in his living room.
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newts
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Post by newts on Mar 19, 2008 20:46:33 GMT -5
Here's how I look at it.. You have a "secret" that you think might scare him away. You would prefer that he is more committed to you before you spring it on him, because some guys might run for the hills. But what is fair? In a way, you are "deceiving him" by not telling him something that you know that he should know, and are stacking the deck in your favor by giving yourself something to balance out the "sururpise"..the cards being him developing feelings for you. On the other hand, if you told him right off the bat he might run because he hasn't had the opportunity to see you as being "worth" the extra responsibility and lifestyle changes that go along with adopting a woman's family along with her. Like I said to you earlier, I dated a woman who told me on the third date that she had a double mastectomy. I stayed with her for months but I never got past it...but at least I had the option to bolt early on before things got too deep, and I respect her for telling me about it. I say it's time. I completely agree with Steve. If he does the bolt (not that I think he will) at least you haven't invested too much time and emotion.
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Post by murdock on Mar 19, 2008 20:48:04 GMT -5
Here's how I look at it.. You have a "secret" that you think might scare him away. You would prefer that he is more committed to you before you spring it on him, because some guys might run for the hills. But what is fair? In a way, you are "deceiving him" by not telling him something that you know that he should know, and are stacking the deck in your favor by giving yourself something to balance out the "sururpise"..the cards being him developing feelings for you. On the other hand, if you told him right off the bat he might run because he hasn't had the opportunity to see you as being "worth" the extra responsibility and lifestyle changes that go along with adopting a woman's family along with her. Like I said to you earlier, I dated a woman who told me on the third date that she had a double mastectomy. I stayed with her for months but I never got past it...but at least I had the option to bolt early on before things got too deep, and I respect her for telling me about it. I say it's time. I completely agree with Steve. If he does the bolt (not that I think he will) at least you haven't invested too much time and emotion. are we forgetting how many ass holes she dated? ?
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Jaded
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Post by Jaded on Mar 19, 2008 20:50:25 GMT -5
I completely agree with Steve. If he does the bolt (not that I think he will) at least you haven't invested too much time and emotion. are we forgetting how many ass holes she dated? ? ?? How would that correlate to her witholding info from this particular guy? Admittedly i may have missed something ...
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tko
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Post by tko on Mar 19, 2008 20:50:49 GMT -5
I think they all have one?
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Post by murdock on Mar 19, 2008 20:53:14 GMT -5
are we forgetting how many ass holes she dated? ? ?? How would that correlate to her witholding info from this particular guy? Admittedly i may have missed something ... she is a single mom... she has a lot on her plate... I'm not saying that she is a good person for doing it... but I can understand why.
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Post by finding on Mar 19, 2008 20:53:29 GMT -5
I completely agree with Steve. If he does the bolt (not that I think he will) at least you haven't invested too much time and emotion. are we forgetting how many ass holes she dated? ? Has someone actually been keeping count?
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Jaded
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Post by Jaded on Mar 19, 2008 20:55:43 GMT -5
I think it is not putting much faith in him as a person to hold it back.
finding, personally, if this were me i would not even WANT to date a man who would have issues with problems my kids had...it would be a good barometer if i wanted to stick around him or not.
If you never see this going serious then i guess it is more understandable. If you do think it could lead there, tell him.
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Post by murdock on Mar 19, 2008 20:55:54 GMT -5
are we forgetting how many ass holes she dated? ? Has someone actually been keeping count? kinda
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Post by murdock on Mar 19, 2008 20:56:35 GMT -5
I think they all have one? one ass hole
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Post by murdock on Mar 19, 2008 20:57:37 GMT -5
I think it is not putting much faith in him as a person to hold it back. finding, personally, if this were me i would not even WANT to date a man who would have issues with problems my kids had...it would be a good barometer if i wanted to stick around him or not. If you never see this going serious then i guess it is more understandable. If you do think it could lead there, tell him. I totally agree ;D
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tko
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Post by tko on Mar 19, 2008 20:58:01 GMT -5
I think they all have one? one ass hole Yes. OK. I see the qoute thing is important.
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Post by finding on Mar 19, 2008 20:58:44 GMT -5
?? How would that correlate to her witholding info from this particular guy? Admittedly i may have missed something ... she is a single mom... she has a lot on her plate... I'm not saying that she is a good person for doing it... but I can understand why. Honestly, I haven't even thought about it until my best friend asked me the other day what he thought about the boys and then I realized I hadn't said anything. He was out of town when I got the scare about the youngest and his tendon/joint issues and by the time he got back I was busy with other things. Before I went over to his place I was going to say something, but then the evening got away from us and I realized this morning that I hadn't brought it up.
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Post by wizer on Mar 19, 2008 21:04:38 GMT -5
are we forgetting how many ass holes she dated? ? Has someone actually been keeping count? SG- Stalker guy...still calling, and possibly driving around the block NG- Dated him once, he finally got the message and is leaving you alone EG- you liked him, but you fucked him too fast, and now you worry you fucked up by fucking him. Any more questions?
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