super
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Post by super on Mar 20, 2008 12:06:11 GMT -5
I'm sure this has been discussed before, but when do you become exclusive with someone?
I feel like you should do it when you stop wanting to date other people. When one person becomes more important to you than what could happen with someone new. At the same time, if you are dating other people, how do you ever let yourself open up and take a chance on getting attached to someone?
Thoughts?
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Post by Saucy on Mar 20, 2008 12:13:47 GMT -5
when he takes you home to meet mom.
nah i'm kidding. but Feelings of attachment should be mutual. That way you'll both know where each other stands.
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Post by sheyd on Mar 20, 2008 13:58:07 GMT -5
For myself, it was never much of an issue, because I open myself up pretty much most of the time, and get attached easily. The difference for me was finding someone super special who had enough spark that I really didn't WANT to try anything with anyone else. With Harry, it happened FAST.
But I think whether you have exclusivity WITH them, you might want to pursue it for YOURSELF if you feel that for them. It doesn't have to be agreed between you before you take yourself off the market until you know more... Just be aware it may not turn out just how you want it to...
Shey
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Jaded
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Post by Jaded on Mar 20, 2008 21:22:16 GMT -5
I was never much of a casual dater. Every guy i ever dated went exclusive. After a couple of dates we knew we liked each other and it was just mutual...
I don't know how people do it otherwise. I have no experience in it. LOL
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Post by murdock on Mar 20, 2008 21:31:02 GMT -5
There are too many options in dating today. I moved in with my boyfriend after 6 months of dating. We both knew that this was it for us right away. I married him and 8 years later I hated him.
I say do what feels right... don't play games or beat around the bush.
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Post by wizer on Mar 20, 2008 22:25:14 GMT -5
I tried multiple dating about a year ago. It was the first time I was "involved" with more than one women, at the time I was dating 3 on and off. I really didn't like it. I felt guilty, I got confused as to what I did with who, or what I talked about with which girl, and I felt like I was pulled. Eventually I settled in with one girl and I was much happier.
Casual dating may be a way to get yourself some action and some variety, but it's work, and to me it wasn't very satisfying. It can also be more costly depending on who is paying the tab on all those dates.
I say, date one person at a time, if you aren't really feeling it after a few dates then say thanks but no thanks, and move on.
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