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Post by murdock on Mar 21, 2008 2:06:35 GMT -5
Awesome, so you agree that pre-nups should be absolutley necessary in embarking in a second, third, fourth marriage right? cool. what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine. agree? hhaahhaaaa Only if I get custody of the video tapes... videotape... what did you tell him about our nights in the LBC
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Post by murdock on Mar 21, 2008 2:07:46 GMT -5
If you need to sign a piece of paper... you either don't need to get married or you have way too much $$$$$$$$$$
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Post by sheyd on Mar 21, 2008 9:40:31 GMT -5
Or you put too much emphasis on money... I think part of what is important to me in a relationship is to know they are willing to share... Harry left his marriage with nothing - the stuff wasn't important. My ex and I split things so we could both have as comfortable a life as possible for the girls - no lawyers, completely amicably. To me - that says even if we split, we would be fair to each other - we have a history of that. I wouldn't ask for a pre-nup, but I would sign if asked. I don't care what I would give up. When I have a little extra I usually share it or give it away anyway!
Shey
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Post by goods on Mar 21, 2008 9:46:50 GMT -5
I'll sign your prenup.
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Post by murdock on Mar 21, 2008 22:11:12 GMT -5
I think that I am not all gung-ho for the prenups because I haven't ever faced a situation where one could have protected me.... when we separated a while back... and I became so depressed I got in an argument with my boss and I quit... my husband was handing me way more than he would have been ordered to.... and asking me if I needed more. He went into my account and paid stuff without me asking. He knew I was having a terrible time... and he cared.
When I worked in probate... there was a couple that was in their mid 40s who both had really good jobs and made lots of money. They both came in to do the pre-nup because they both needed to protect what they had. The man surprise gifted her 1/2 of his house, which was in Santa Monica and worth 2.4 mill at the time. I thought it was sweet.
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Post by rocko on Mar 24, 2008 8:59:46 GMT -5
prenups are kind of silly when neither person has anything to begin with. If I were rich...I would want one. If he had asked me to sign one I would have. We have both been used in our lives and I understand taking precautions.
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Post by gdgross on Mar 24, 2008 11:07:36 GMT -5
When I worked in probate... there was a couple that was in their mid 40s who both had really good jobs and made lots of money. They both came in to do the pre-nup because they both needed to protect what they had. The man surprise gifted her 1/2 of his house, which was in Santa Monica and worth 2.4 mill at the time. I thought it was sweet. Depends on the circumstances of the divorce, I suppose. In my case, if I didn't live in a no-fault state I would have taken my ex to the cleaners. I don't think she deserved jack shit. And we had no kids, so I didn't have to about depriving them or anything. I was nice and cordial because I was emotionally messed up at the time, and because there would have been no point to being an ass. If I had thought I might have come out better financially, I would have been an ass. As far as prenups, they are surely unromantic, but after what I went through last time, (and now that i have a few more assets/money) I will probably want to sign one before I get married again. Unless she's got more money than me. ;D
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Post by Kim Possible on Mar 24, 2008 11:15:51 GMT -5
That's what I was thinking. I literally have nothing. I had money the first time around, and we bought our house together, right before we got married, and sold it before we separated. So when we divorced, the only thing we had was debt; debt in my name, because I was naive enough to think that he understood that it would be joint debt. The courts saw it as joint debt, but the cc companies could care less about the court order.
So the only thing I'd do over is not letting someone share credit with me. my credit is soo damaged that I can't even get any, let alone anyone I may possibly married.
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Post by B52 on Mar 25, 2008 11:14:15 GMT -5
prenups are kind of silly when neither person has anything to begin with. If I were rich...I would want one. If he had asked me to sign one I would have. We have both been used in our lives and I understand taking precautions. I agree 100%. I think people can get really nasty when something is ending and there is nothing wrong with protecting yourself. However, if you don't have two nickles to rub together, I think they're silly. I would have no problem signing one myself and would consider having someone sign one if I was making a decent income.
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