Post by crushy on Mar 25, 2008 7:21:40 GMT -5
As most of you know, I'm in a pending custody case with their dad after 4 1/2 yrs of divorce. We were appointed a Guardian ad Litem (I won't even comment on that ).
I literally begged (in e-mail of course) my ex to put the gloves down and join together as parents and help them do well this term as their grades were slipping. They both have ADD (My older one's is much more severe, but he's brilliant when he has medicine in his system).
I've taken them both back to counseling (including their dad), met with their Vice Principals (after meeting with their School Counselors), e-mailed constantly with one teacher or another about specific assignments, etc. My oldest pulled out from 5 'Fs' to one. Guess what class he failed? Driver's Ed. I know his dad would LOVE to blame this on me, but anyone that knows my story probably knows why my almost 16 yr old is not anxious to drive.
I paid $30 and made him take an 'Arrive Alive' defensive driving class. When I picked him up, he said, 'Thanks, Mom...as if I wasn't scared enough.' Of course my ex-hole will try to spin this to my fault, but from 5 'Fs' to one without an ounce of support or help from him since he'd rather see his sons fail than lose in court since he's so financially screwed and now wants joint (yep, not sole custody) because they became so 'at risk' after over 2 1/2 yrs after he left me.
They are in foreclosure, just had a baby, her bankruptcy was dismissed for non-pmt and his is going to be if it's not been already. They had our sons anytime they wanted them and yet took me to court with all kinds of false (defensible) accusations just because I make significantly more than him and he wants me to pay them child support if we have joint? Oh, can't forget to mention his own mom provided the court with an affidavit in support of me maintaining sole custody and that he was lucky I let him have them as much as he did. Helllooo? Oh, I'm just not even going there this early in the morning.
My boys rock. It looked as if their grades were suffering (which of course, was ALL my fault), but they pulled through. I just checked their grades and 'in his face'. Funny...he'd take my oldest to a counselor twice several years ago that said he should not be expected more than a 'C' because of his ADD. Of course, I protested because I've learned to compensate for my head injury and know with as brilliant as he is, he can do better. I'm now trying to get those records for the court. My ex conveniently ignores my requests for his name, etc.
I'm so proud of them, but even more sad their dad won't be. What kind of parent would rather their child fail than succeed for the sake of $? I was just informed I need to provide another $1,000 for the Guardian ad Litem. WTH that guy did with the first $2k is beyond me?!
Please pray this is over soon for my boys' sake? If you're not a prayer, some positive energy? It's been nearly 5 yrs and he's still doing everything he can to hurt us.
But ya know what? My boys ROCK!!! I have EVERYTHING in writing and proof he's not lifted a finger to help them. I am so proud of them for so many reasons.
He better never leave her or she will string him up by his balls!! ;D (I think he had some. )
I literally begged (in e-mail of course) my ex to put the gloves down and join together as parents and help them do well this term as their grades were slipping. They both have ADD (My older one's is much more severe, but he's brilliant when he has medicine in his system).
I've taken them both back to counseling (including their dad), met with their Vice Principals (after meeting with their School Counselors), e-mailed constantly with one teacher or another about specific assignments, etc. My oldest pulled out from 5 'Fs' to one. Guess what class he failed? Driver's Ed. I know his dad would LOVE to blame this on me, but anyone that knows my story probably knows why my almost 16 yr old is not anxious to drive.
I paid $30 and made him take an 'Arrive Alive' defensive driving class. When I picked him up, he said, 'Thanks, Mom...as if I wasn't scared enough.' Of course my ex-hole will try to spin this to my fault, but from 5 'Fs' to one without an ounce of support or help from him since he'd rather see his sons fail than lose in court since he's so financially screwed and now wants joint (yep, not sole custody) because they became so 'at risk' after over 2 1/2 yrs after he left me.
They are in foreclosure, just had a baby, her bankruptcy was dismissed for non-pmt and his is going to be if it's not been already. They had our sons anytime they wanted them and yet took me to court with all kinds of false (defensible) accusations just because I make significantly more than him and he wants me to pay them child support if we have joint? Oh, can't forget to mention his own mom provided the court with an affidavit in support of me maintaining sole custody and that he was lucky I let him have them as much as he did. Helllooo? Oh, I'm just not even going there this early in the morning.
My boys rock. It looked as if their grades were suffering (which of course, was ALL my fault), but they pulled through. I just checked their grades and 'in his face'. Funny...he'd take my oldest to a counselor twice several years ago that said he should not be expected more than a 'C' because of his ADD. Of course, I protested because I've learned to compensate for my head injury and know with as brilliant as he is, he can do better. I'm now trying to get those records for the court. My ex conveniently ignores my requests for his name, etc.
I'm so proud of them, but even more sad their dad won't be. What kind of parent would rather their child fail than succeed for the sake of $? I was just informed I need to provide another $1,000 for the Guardian ad Litem. WTH that guy did with the first $2k is beyond me?!
Please pray this is over soon for my boys' sake? If you're not a prayer, some positive energy? It's been nearly 5 yrs and he's still doing everything he can to hurt us.
But ya know what? My boys ROCK!!! I have EVERYTHING in writing and proof he's not lifted a finger to help them. I am so proud of them for so many reasons.
He better never leave her or she will string him up by his balls!! ;D (I think he had some. )