Post by gdgross on Apr 14, 2008 12:07:44 GMT -5
I really want to hate them, but it ain't right, I know... We had a great relationship when I was with my ex.
I ran into her dad last Sunday and had a ten minute conversation with him. Superficial, but the singer in my band is having the same surgery as my ex-brother-in-law did a few years ago - cornea transplant. So we talked about that; he also wanted to give me xBIL's # so my singer could talk to him about it if he wanted. I deleted all their numbers from my address book over a year ago.
Then, I ran into her mom, yesterday! What the hell?!?!
It seems they are both kind of trying to be conversational and a little friendly with me.
Each time I see them it messes me up for days. My adrenaline and emotions rise up and it just puts me on edge. I know I have some bitterness towards her family. I feel like, when my ex left, they just kind of dropped me, too. There were several occasions where I extended the olive branch and felt that it wasn't reciprocated.
I know she's blood and I'm not. I get that. To be honest, I'm not even sure if they disagreed with her decision to leave me or not. We never had that conversation. All I wanted was, "Geoff, we love you and we're sorry you're hurting" and a hug and probably some tears, but I never got it.
I don't want her back at all. She is a completely different person now, and I don't think I could trust her again anyway. But I do miss what she represented - love, stability, the prospect of starting a family, and in general satisfaction with life.
So why the hell am I so pissed of at her folks?!?!? And why are they being nice to me now?
To hell with them.
I ran into her dad last Sunday and had a ten minute conversation with him. Superficial, but the singer in my band is having the same surgery as my ex-brother-in-law did a few years ago - cornea transplant. So we talked about that; he also wanted to give me xBIL's # so my singer could talk to him about it if he wanted. I deleted all their numbers from my address book over a year ago.
Then, I ran into her mom, yesterday! What the hell?!?!
It seems they are both kind of trying to be conversational and a little friendly with me.
Each time I see them it messes me up for days. My adrenaline and emotions rise up and it just puts me on edge. I know I have some bitterness towards her family. I feel like, when my ex left, they just kind of dropped me, too. There were several occasions where I extended the olive branch and felt that it wasn't reciprocated.
I know she's blood and I'm not. I get that. To be honest, I'm not even sure if they disagreed with her decision to leave me or not. We never had that conversation. All I wanted was, "Geoff, we love you and we're sorry you're hurting" and a hug and probably some tears, but I never got it.
I don't want her back at all. She is a completely different person now, and I don't think I could trust her again anyway. But I do miss what she represented - love, stability, the prospect of starting a family, and in general satisfaction with life.
So why the hell am I so pissed of at her folks?!?!? And why are they being nice to me now?
To hell with them.