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Post by redskyatnight on Sept 19, 2008 9:46:42 GMT -5
This morning, I get another email from the ex-husband of the gf.
The names have been changed to protect the children.
"Last Sat. night Joe (my ex), Mary(his ex and Joe's gf), my girls, your two girls, a school friend of theirs, and a 1 year old baby that Mary was babysitting went to the soccer game. The friend is diabetic and has an insulin pump. The baby was cranky so Mary was rocking him and Joe told her to stop because he didn’t like the seats rocking.
I am not sure what was said but Joe ended up leaving with your two girls and stranding the rest of them there after dark. They had to walk all the way home. (It's not a great part of town and it was probably 2 miles) The baby was hungry so they had to stop at a store.
This to me is so unacceptable that he had no concern for the welfare of the kids, the baby or Mary. He never said anything about it this past weekend when I saw him, neither did Mary.
My daughter told me yesterday afternoon. I sent a message to him that I don’t appreciate it one bit and the best thing to do is just stay away from me because I am really pissed. Unbelievable that he would do that, isn’t it?"
HOnestly, I think he should be arrested for Child Endangerment. I'm wondering how to approach this with my kids. I don't want them thinking what their dad did was acceptable behavior.
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Post by shattered on Sept 19, 2008 10:39:25 GMT -5
Good grief.
Sounds like you have to tread a fine line here -- for your children's sake, you probably don't want to be too straight-forward (that their father is a total ass), but of course you don't want them to think this behavior is acceptable, either.
Maybe you can phrase it along the lines of ,"I don't know why your father acted that way, that was very surprising to me. This was not the right thing to do. I know he didn't mean to endanger Mary and her kids in any way, but it could have been a very dangerous situation for them. If something like this should ever happen again, please tell me/call me right away, and I will be happy to talk to your dad/come pick up Mary/kids/whoever...."
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Post by crushy on Oct 10, 2008 7:54:08 GMT -5
Man, your ex is a puke! I'm sorry you have to worry about your own kids, but Mary and the baby too?
I agree with shattered. Of course, that's assuming your ex wouldn't take it out on your kids for calling you.
If Mary is still with him, sounds like she's going to have a few more experiences before she dumps his butt.
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Post by redskyatnight on Oct 10, 2008 11:30:01 GMT -5
Yes, they are back together. I could see the pattern. He was really nasty to me on the phone right after it happened, then a week later, it was all back to normal. That is his patttern. He'll blow up and have a fit, clam down and all will be peaceful for a while, then he'll start shutting down until he blows up again.
Apparently, he has already thrown a fit because the groceries weren't right. I feel bad for the gf. His behavior will only get worse, but I can't get involved it in. It's too hard on me emotionally and it hurts my ability to work with him.
I had to tell the gf's ex not to tell me that stuff anymore. It's just too hard.
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Post by crushy on Oct 10, 2008 15:20:31 GMT -5
I had to tell the gf's ex not to tell me that stuff anymore. It's just too hard. Good call on your part, girl. I know it's hard to care, but it makes it easier if you don't know all of the details and exactly when it's all going down. How's the custody battle for you?
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Post by redskyatnight on Oct 10, 2008 15:27:02 GMT -5
How's the custody battle for you? We have another court appearance in Dec. I'm sure we will continue in coparenting, which is good. The ex hates it, but it is helping. How's yours?
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Post by crushy on Oct 10, 2008 21:02:52 GMT -5
Since they lost their house and had their baby, it's escalated. I finally had the sweep done, which was worth every penny. I don't even know when our next court date will be because first there has to be a hearing regarding him and his counsel trying to subpoena my banking records when the discovery process expired last year. He only cares about the fight and she's stuck trying to take care of the $ end of it because he has no concept. I thought she'd be smarter than this, but apparently not. Same song, different day...
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Post by redskyatnight on Oct 11, 2008 6:24:22 GMT -5
I hope it settles down soon. He sounds fairly controlling, so it may be a long time. Since the bugs are out, he's probably going nuts wondering what you are doing. You don't sound as anxious about it. That's progress.
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Post by rocko on Oct 14, 2008 14:29:22 GMT -5
Since they lost their house and had their baby, it's escalated. What do you mean by "lost" their baby? Like lost custody or her baby died?
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