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Post by wizer on Mar 6, 2008 14:55:06 GMT -5
You almost have me convinced, Sheyd. Really. Thanks.
I just have to let it go.
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Post by sheyd on Mar 6, 2008 15:00:26 GMT -5
And hey - I love spending other people's money - you want someone to online shop with you I am always happy to join you! Shey
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Post by murdock on Mar 6, 2008 15:04:41 GMT -5
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Post by finding on Mar 6, 2008 15:28:53 GMT -5
And hey - I love spending other people's money - you want someone to online shop with you I am always happy to join you! Shey You can help me find barstools then. I haven't had any luck. Preferrably wooden ones with a cherry finish for about $30 each. You up for the challenge?
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Post by lumpy on Mar 6, 2008 15:54:16 GMT -5
Play it by the book big guy. Make out your list and have your lawyer submit it. Be the reasonable one. Not just cause it's the right thing to do but cause it's the smart thing to do. When this finally goes to court and really gets rolling, it will be points in your favor.
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Post by wizer on Mar 6, 2008 21:26:46 GMT -5
I COMPLETELY agree with shey on this. I know it is hard to swallow your pride and say here, walk all over me and keep taking from me when all I do is give and give. Yes, thats the tough part. Not only am I on the ground and getting the sand kicked in my face, but she wants the sand back now.
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Post by pennylane on Mar 6, 2008 22:08:11 GMT -5
you are a big guy here steve.
I'm looking forward to the day when this hell is over for you.
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Post by bobfromacctg on Mar 7, 2008 13:48:32 GMT -5
My X did the exact same thing to me Idoc. She even ended up keeping things that were mine as a child! She refused to give the blocks I played with that were made by my grandfather - for me! She kept furniture that came from my family including but not limited to an upright piano and a Bookcase that meant a lot to me.
I had to just let it go and decide that being alive was worth more than the value of fighting over those items. Unlike you, I was allowed in the house for about an hour to get the items that I wanted - unfortunatly, it was right after the split and my mind was thinking more about day to day living, not memories of things that belonged to me.
So, I let it go - she can have them.
Sad but I was suggest the same thing. Just let them go. Don't pay the $'s to attorneys of stuff - save those $'s for the important stuff.
Just my .02$
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Post by wizer on Mar 7, 2008 13:51:22 GMT -5
My X did the exact same thing to me Idoc. She even ended up keeping things that were mine as a child! She refused to give the blocks I played with that were made by my grandfather - for me! She kept furniture that came from my family including but not limited to an upright piano and a Bookcase that meant a lot to me. That's just so wrong. Yeah, there's nothing there that I cannot live without, its just a helpless feeling when everything you have worked for in your life is in the hands of others and there's nothing you can do about it. And in my case I am laying out thousands in support dollars so its just another slap in the face. When I moved out in December, I took several personal items, so I did have my opportunity. I got most of what I wanted, but there are still some odds and ends that have some value to me. Plus the fact that I am legally entitled to half of the value of the possessions in the house. Still not sure how much I am going to fight this. The replies on this thread are a huge help to me. Thanks guys.
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Post by sheyd on Mar 7, 2008 14:40:33 GMT -5
Still not sure how much I am going to fight this. that right there says it all - it would just become a big fight. There are no winners in a big fight - especially when there are kids involved. Seriously, it will cost you more money, and more headaches, to try to get already used stuff with bad memories attached (including the memories of how much it cost you to get it) than it would take to just save that money and go get something that is ALL YOURS, no strings attached. My daughters' favorite time with their daddy is when he had just re-married and they were furnishing a new house. They got to choose their bedroom decorations, right down to colors and lamps. It made their new 2nd home so much more fun and personable. Shey
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Post by wizer on Mar 10, 2008 13:14:36 GMT -5
Sheyd,
After giving a lot of thought to the great points you made, along with several others, I spoke to my attorney and comprised a list of things that are very important to me...I left off furniture, and TVs, and other items that WOULD be missed by the children and other items that she purchased over the years that I just dont want or need.
I also requested a "walk through" to refesh my memory and get one final look at what was left behind...but I won't make a "federal case out of all of this".
So I am sort of taking the middle road. I won't dig my heels in but I won't roll over either.
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Post by murdock on Mar 10, 2008 13:20:46 GMT -5
happy mediums are good.
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Post by wizer on Mar 10, 2008 13:46:34 GMT -5
It won't be happy, it won't even be "medium". I just don't want to hand it over just like that. I'm too stubborn. Not necessarily smart about it.
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Post by murdock on Mar 10, 2008 13:49:48 GMT -5
It won't be happy, it won't even be "medium". I just don't want to hand it over just like that. I'm too stubborn. Not necessarily smart about it. I meant that you found a medium that you are happy with between the extremes of your options.
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Post by wizer on Mar 10, 2008 14:01:24 GMT -5
I meant that you found a medium that you are happy with between the extremes of your options. True. Well put. Thanks Murdock.
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