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Post by finding on Mar 21, 2008 19:23:26 GMT -5
I went to the store this afternoon to get some groceries before I go to pick the kids up. There was this cute guy about my age in line in front of me and we were scoping each other out, that is until he saw the contents of my shopping cart.
That's when it hit me that I'm 33 years old and will have a teenage girl in a few months and most people my age either don't have kids, or are just starting their families. By my age I should have already purchased a home and shouldn't be driving a piece of shit vehicle that I don't know how or when I'm going to get fixed.
I love all of my children with my life, but I've let them and myself down.
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Post by freckles on Mar 21, 2008 19:31:05 GMT -5
You Kids only care about that You Love them That is what is important
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Post by wizer on Mar 21, 2008 19:34:16 GMT -5
L-
You're still beating yourself up. Just stop already.
Did you call EG?
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Post by Jaded on Mar 21, 2008 19:35:56 GMT -5
finding you are awfully hard on yourself.
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Post by finding on Mar 21, 2008 19:36:50 GMT -5
L- You're still beating yourself up. Just stop already. Did you call EG? This has nothing to do with EG. It just hit me today that for someone my age, my life is totally fucked. And no I haven't called him yet.
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Post by wizer on Mar 21, 2008 19:38:02 GMT -5
Yeah but the EG thing is bothering you, ALOT.
It makes other things worse.
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Post by Jaded on Mar 21, 2008 19:49:39 GMT -5
You can see the glass half empty or half full...
Spin the negative energy into positive by deciding that from today forward you will work on making positive changes. Set small goals to get some instant wins and work your way up.
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Post by wizer on Mar 21, 2008 19:55:47 GMT -5
You can see the glass half empty or half full... Or spilled all over the coffee table.
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Post by Jaded on Mar 21, 2008 20:05:22 GMT -5
Steve that would be negative.
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Post by finding on Mar 21, 2008 20:13:08 GMT -5
You can see the glass half empty or half full... Or spilled all over the coffee table. That is the way I feel right now, and have felt for quite a while. I'm broke and am struggling to find a job. I look around and see what I should have and what I actually do, and the scales are way out of balance. The plans and goals I had for my future are gone. Before the move and all that crap I knew what I wanted. I had a future goal for the kids and I and we were working on it. This summer we would have started to take action on it. Now I find myself floundering with three kids in tow and no idea how we are going to make it.
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Post by wizer on Mar 21, 2008 20:17:23 GMT -5
Steve that would be negative.[/quote Yes, I kind of figured that Jade.
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Post by freckles on Mar 21, 2008 20:18:51 GMT -5
Or spilled all over the coffee table. That is the way I feel right now, and have felt for quite a while. I'm broke and am struggling to find a job. I look around and see what I should have and what I actually do, and the scales are way out of balance. The plans and goals I had for my future are gone. Before the move and all that crap I knew what I wanted. I had a future goal for the kids and I and we were working on it. This summer we would have started to take action on it. Now I find myself floundering with three kids in tow and no idea how we are going to make it. You are a Strong Person You can make it
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Post by kittenhart on Mar 21, 2008 20:39:16 GMT -5
finding,
There is no set prescribed order for doing things in life....don't feel that just because you had your kids earlier than some people that your life is now somehow fucked up....you just did things in a different order than maybe most of the people around you. I thought you said you were in school, and taking classes (I'm assuming towards something that will get you a decent job in the long run?) You have your kids and they love you, and yes, "having three kids in tow" makes things harder but everybody's life is always harder at times than it looks from the outside in some ways...look at it this way....your kids will be grown up by your mid 40's....when you're still young enough and hawt enough to travel and meet up with other hawties ;D
I think people get too much pressure from society to have their lives happen according to a prescribed order of events...it's ridiculous.
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Post by freckles on Mar 21, 2008 20:44:01 GMT -5
At least you have kids
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Post by jules on Mar 21, 2008 23:20:21 GMT -5
for what it's worth, i have the good job, the house, the car, and the money in the bank. however i'm not privileged enough to be a parent, and it's beginning to look like that's the one thing i really wanted that will never happen.
i'd trade places with you in a minute.
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