Prayer Request

[rocko]

This was sent to me Sunday from my friend in TX's mother. We have been friends since she was 3 and I was 5.

The grandtwins died in utero sometime last week. Duraih went in for a routine sonogram on Thursday to see if they could tell the sex of the babies and there was no longer any heartbeats. Everything was going well, so this was a shock to all of us. Duraih is not doing real well, right now.
It has been hard for her knowing that the babies were dead inside her. She goes into the hospital in the morning to begin the delivery process. I hope it goes along quickly.
She was eighteen and one half weeks into the pregnancy.

Love you girlie...

Margaret

This morning I received this one...

Aiden Keith Fisher was delivered about 6:15 tonight and his twin brother, Robert William Fisher, followed about five or so minutes afterward.

All and all it did not take as long as it could have.
She had some contractions that got stronger over several hours and then as soon as the epidural was in place--it happened all of a sudden. There was no pushing involved.
Delivering the placenta was trying--it doesn't just deliver out like after a regular birth.

Duraih was an emotional wreck all day--who could blame her!
Bobby is the silent type...but you could tell he was hurting as much as Duraih. Just as I left the hospital, she was having an aura and the beginnings of a migraine...they were trying to curb it before it went into a full fledged rip snorting headache...I don't know what happened...but I know Bobby will take care of her.

Sweet little baby boys...

I really feel blessed to have been able to see them and hold them...a little being still being formed inside his mother...
it was heart-wrenching and touching...God does knit us together...a miracle in progress...

Hug those boys of yours extra tight!

Please pray for all of them.

[Phoenixx]

Oh no....they are in my thoughts....

[jules]

how heartbreaking...

[sheyd]

I can't even IMAGINE that feeling of loss - the loss of one child is so horrific, now two at once? I am so sorry, I hope you are able to be strong for her, she probably needs to remember now that life can go on and become happy again - she is probably not able to remember that right now.

Shey

[bobfromacctg]

she probably needs to remember now that life can go on and become happy again - she is probably not able to remember that right now.

No she doesn't need to remember that. Right now she needs to be given the freedom to grieve over her dead children. Don't be suprised if it takes her a year. Also, marriages that bury children have a very high failure rate.

Speaking from experience here unfortunatly.

[rocko]

She isn't married. She just met the guy and got pregnant within the first month or so.

She isn't the best person in the world. I wouldn't wish what has happened to her on anyone though.

She will never forgive herself for the abortions she has had.

[sheyd]

I am not saying to ignore it or not let her grieve, but even within grieving you have to be aware that life goes on, even when it feels like it shouldn't.

She is having guilt on top of grief! How horrible! Everyone makes mistakes or have things in their past, I hope she doesn't beat herself up too badly! This loss is NOT a punishment...

I am so glad you are there for your friend. No one is perfect, and she deserves that affection, too!

Shey

[rocko]

She is sooo far away. I am in TN and her in TX. I send my love thru her mom.

[murdock]

No one deserves this pain. I am glad that Bobby will take care of her. During times of great sorrow it is good to find strength in loved ones. I try to remind myself that everything happens for a reason... even if we don't always know what that reason is. They will be in my prayers.

[rocko]

Her daughters are okay. One doesn't understand and the other just knows that the babies won't be coming home with them.

the 6 year old went with them to the ultrasound to find out what the gender was andwhen there wasnt a heart beat they got so upset bc she was still acting happy (she is 6) and yelled at her. I know they didn't mean it, but she is having problems thinking mommy is mad at her. I hope Duraih is well enough soon to spend some time with her and help her understand better. Grandma is keeping both daughters at this time.

[bobfromacctg]

When our son died during delivery, my other guys were 2 and 4. After the dust settled, the boys would play 'ambulance' and my oldest would yell "Baby died..baby died"....it was almost more than my X could handle but the guys didn't understand.

As they got alittle older, we could expain to the oldest that that was not a game that was to be played.

Now they can not believe it - but then they are 23 and 21..

All things with time work themselves out..but its hard getting there!

[rocko]

Well, I am still in contact with her momma. Duraih isn't doing too good I am sure. She deleted her myspace accoutn. She had sono pics and stuff on it before. She deleted everything.

I should call, but what do you say.

I mean really what the hell do you say?