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Post by RO on Jun 9, 2008 13:52:55 GMT -5
nah, i've gotta be true to myself, and i'm pretty happy with who i am.  any partner or potential partner who doesn't dig it, isn't for me anyway. I couldn't agree with you more. |
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Post by shattered on Jun 12, 2008 10:25:08 GMT -5
Phoenixx,
I've never done the casual dating thing. I either had a boyfriend or I didn't. When I would start seeing someone, it was just kind of clear (I don't know how, it just was) that this was an exclusive relationship, probably headed toward something serious. Usually started having sex around three or four months. (Would kiss and fool around beforehand; it was a gradual build-up.) This was never a planned time table, it's just the way it worked out.
The only time in my life that when to have sex was ever an issue was with this one guy who expected we'd be sleeping together after having seen each other only two or three times. He really put the pressure on. Told me that if we didn't sleep together soon, he might lose sexual interest in me.
I told him that was the most ridiculous thing I'd ever heard. That if you're really into someone, the attraction will grow over time, regardless of whether you're having sex at the beginning or not. He withdrew for a week, and then came back, ruefully. We dated for four months. (And then, when I was ready for sex, he moved away, and never called again. No big loss.)
My point is, that, yes, there will be guys who give all sorts of reasons of why you should sleep together right away. But it doesn't matter WHAT they say. The only thing that matters is that what you do feels right to both of you.
Yes, there are guys who want to get to know you before hopping in the sack. As gdgross said: "If I'm really into a girl, I'll wait as long as I need to. It's really that simple."
Shattered
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Post by rocko on Jun 18, 2008 13:41:17 GMT -5
I have done things both ways and honestly I respect myself more and the relationship we develop more if I give myself a chance to make my decision about how much I like a guy before I add in the retardedness that adding sex to it to the table too early can bring.
Guys may correct me if I am wrong, but I thnk that guys often enjoy a first date that gets them laid. They also often will not see that girl as long term material if she is "that kinda girl".
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