Post by crushy on Jul 13, 2008 9:30:21 GMT -5
I appreciate you finally giving my your new address last night via text since Cam would be spending the night there. The distance and area are somewhat of a concern to me, but I believe as responsible parents, we will find a way to make it work.
I had a friend that lived on Windsor (a few houses South) and know it is a quaint little street, but like everywhere, there will be concerns. Although i is my weekend and I let Cam help you move, Parker chose to stay here at home with me. I think it would be both mature and beneficial for us to consider arrangements for me to drive from SLC to W Bountiful, back to SLC to deliver them to you just to return to SLC for work and then onto W Bountiful for home. Of course, if that is what the Judge orders, I will comply. Thankfully, I have a supportive mom that helps deliver them when they are due in your care. Again, I see no difference with your wife accommodating such arrangements as my mom. If they are delivered in your care responsibly, I don't see the problem.
Realistically, there will be some adjustments while we adjust to the new venue. Of course it is your choice to make a scene when I make arrangements to drive from SLC to W Bountiful, back to SLC to deliver them, back to SLC to make up work time, then to West Bountiful home. I hope we can conduct ourselves as adults, put our sons first and find the most time effective way to ensure the maximum time for your visitation.
I am not even opposed to allowing you an extra night during the week for visitation if the distance cuts too much into your visitation time and puts too much stress on our sons with their daily homework. I offer this as I did to allow you to have them earlier on Thursday nights to make up for the time it would take to get them in your car since they are 'Last Name Here' and are on their own time-frame.
Troy, I have tried many times to extend the olive branch and I am doing it again. I am completely open to any and all suggestions you and your wife have to minimize the impact this change will have on our sons.
The will be walking to school Mon thru Thurs after Aug 4th as the Governor has implemented a 4/10 work shift. I would like to have PK continue to attend Homework Hall (although I did not see a significant improvement...no, I did not say ANY improvement, just 'significant improvement').
I could go back and find the e-mail I sent you asking you to participate and prove you are worthy of 'joint custody.'. This fell on deaf ears. I would love nothing more than for you to participate in their lives and schooling like you did when you first left and were angling for joint custody. So far, (no insult intended), I have seen nothing but throwing them to the wolves and hoping their failure will help your cause/effort for joint custody.
You love them. You are a good dad. I believe Nancy loves them too, but I am so far convinced any and all investment you had in them is solely financial at this point. I never thought you'd do this, but to my dismay, you have done nothing but act in YOUR financial interest.
When I offer, you to keep the boys overnight, I don't mention it to them as I can almost guarantee you are either not going to respond or have an excuse.
Yes, I mentioned something about giving you sole custody and moving to TX and not working just to see your reaction when you realized you might have the sole support of them w/ no support. It shocked me you considered I may be serious (although you did mention you could not believe I'd forgo my pension), but again, the boys have become nothing but a cash cow to you.
I have NO intention of leaving Utah as (AGAIN), I believe the boys love you and NEED their REAL dad. They love you, Troy. At one point, I put in e-mail to show me you are worthy of joint custody and you have been nothing but a disappointment. I have tons of lengthy e-mails from you to me with all kinds of accusations and so on that I have not forwarded to Trent, but I believe I am going to send this to him . He can spend a few minutes and read this and drop it into our file.
It sickens me to hear you know exactly what time my mom ordered Pizza Hut, it scares me you physically went into my bank to drill them about my account, it sickens me you know what I buy at the store and I could go on and on. Only sick stalkers can recite the detail you have been dumb enough to put into e-mail.
MOVE ON.....You left me for Nancy. You gave me SOLE custody, I have dramatically improved my capability to care for our sons. They completed summer school, they are being registered for next year, they have a stable home, they have a support system (in my mom particularly), they have your own mom and sister to support us and the fact I should retain custody.
Yes, I have health problems, but you insulting my short-term memory would be like me insulting your fat, bald head. It is what it is and frankly, if I were not bright, I'd not be able to swim with the sharks. It takes someone on their toes to keep my job and raise our sons.
As ALWAYS, you can have the boys ANYTIME, all I require is a 3 second e-mail.
Our next step is trial. It will cost 10s of thousands of dollars which is stupid since you can have them anytime you want them as long as you send an e-mail. Like I told Trent, I offered you joint custody, but it's ALL about $ for you. I don't know what happened to the 'Sponsor' your wife mentioned was supporting you, but the fact you are in a rental, broke and only have scheduled visitation shows me I have done something right.
Yes, I was lost when you left, but my life is great. I am marrying the man I love, he loves the boys and shows them more attn, I have a wonderful job with great benefits, I could retire in 6 years, we own land, we have sole custody of our sons and most of all, we have each other. Trust is the cornerstone of our relationship. I would bet a million dollars, that's not the case for you and N.
I will take care of our sons. They will be taken care of emotionally (since I made arrangements to get them into counseling), financially, socially, etc. If you only knew....the only part that takes the sweetness out of that statement is their feelings they are still dealing with.
We both had dead-beat dads and swore our kids would never suffer that experience. You failed and they know you are fighting to get out of paying your legal, finaicial obligations...not to mention you never take them outside to toss a football, but you managed time with me while I was a young teen girl.
I had a friend that lived on Windsor (a few houses South) and know it is a quaint little street, but like everywhere, there will be concerns. Although i is my weekend and I let Cam help you move, Parker chose to stay here at home with me. I think it would be both mature and beneficial for us to consider arrangements for me to drive from SLC to W Bountiful, back to SLC to deliver them to you just to return to SLC for work and then onto W Bountiful for home. Of course, if that is what the Judge orders, I will comply. Thankfully, I have a supportive mom that helps deliver them when they are due in your care. Again, I see no difference with your wife accommodating such arrangements as my mom. If they are delivered in your care responsibly, I don't see the problem.
Realistically, there will be some adjustments while we adjust to the new venue. Of course it is your choice to make a scene when I make arrangements to drive from SLC to W Bountiful, back to SLC to deliver them, back to SLC to make up work time, then to West Bountiful home. I hope we can conduct ourselves as adults, put our sons first and find the most time effective way to ensure the maximum time for your visitation.
I am not even opposed to allowing you an extra night during the week for visitation if the distance cuts too much into your visitation time and puts too much stress on our sons with their daily homework. I offer this as I did to allow you to have them earlier on Thursday nights to make up for the time it would take to get them in your car since they are 'Last Name Here' and are on their own time-frame.
Troy, I have tried many times to extend the olive branch and I am doing it again. I am completely open to any and all suggestions you and your wife have to minimize the impact this change will have on our sons.
The will be walking to school Mon thru Thurs after Aug 4th as the Governor has implemented a 4/10 work shift. I would like to have PK continue to attend Homework Hall (although I did not see a significant improvement...no, I did not say ANY improvement, just 'significant improvement').
I could go back and find the e-mail I sent you asking you to participate and prove you are worthy of 'joint custody.'. This fell on deaf ears. I would love nothing more than for you to participate in their lives and schooling like you did when you first left and were angling for joint custody. So far, (no insult intended), I have seen nothing but throwing them to the wolves and hoping their failure will help your cause/effort for joint custody.
You love them. You are a good dad. I believe Nancy loves them too, but I am so far convinced any and all investment you had in them is solely financial at this point. I never thought you'd do this, but to my dismay, you have done nothing but act in YOUR financial interest.
When I offer, you to keep the boys overnight, I don't mention it to them as I can almost guarantee you are either not going to respond or have an excuse.
Yes, I mentioned something about giving you sole custody and moving to TX and not working just to see your reaction when you realized you might have the sole support of them w/ no support. It shocked me you considered I may be serious (although you did mention you could not believe I'd forgo my pension), but again, the boys have become nothing but a cash cow to you.
I have NO intention of leaving Utah as (AGAIN), I believe the boys love you and NEED their REAL dad. They love you, Troy. At one point, I put in e-mail to show me you are worthy of joint custody and you have been nothing but a disappointment. I have tons of lengthy e-mails from you to me with all kinds of accusations and so on that I have not forwarded to Trent, but I believe I am going to send this to him . He can spend a few minutes and read this and drop it into our file.
It sickens me to hear you know exactly what time my mom ordered Pizza Hut, it scares me you physically went into my bank to drill them about my account, it sickens me you know what I buy at the store and I could go on and on. Only sick stalkers can recite the detail you have been dumb enough to put into e-mail.
MOVE ON.....You left me for Nancy. You gave me SOLE custody, I have dramatically improved my capability to care for our sons. They completed summer school, they are being registered for next year, they have a stable home, they have a support system (in my mom particularly), they have your own mom and sister to support us and the fact I should retain custody.
Yes, I have health problems, but you insulting my short-term memory would be like me insulting your fat, bald head. It is what it is and frankly, if I were not bright, I'd not be able to swim with the sharks. It takes someone on their toes to keep my job and raise our sons.
As ALWAYS, you can have the boys ANYTIME, all I require is a 3 second e-mail.
Our next step is trial. It will cost 10s of thousands of dollars which is stupid since you can have them anytime you want them as long as you send an e-mail. Like I told Trent, I offered you joint custody, but it's ALL about $ for you. I don't know what happened to the 'Sponsor' your wife mentioned was supporting you, but the fact you are in a rental, broke and only have scheduled visitation shows me I have done something right.
Yes, I was lost when you left, but my life is great. I am marrying the man I love, he loves the boys and shows them more attn, I have a wonderful job with great benefits, I could retire in 6 years, we own land, we have sole custody of our sons and most of all, we have each other. Trust is the cornerstone of our relationship. I would bet a million dollars, that's not the case for you and N.
I will take care of our sons. They will be taken care of emotionally (since I made arrangements to get them into counseling), financially, socially, etc. If you only knew....the only part that takes the sweetness out of that statement is their feelings they are still dealing with.
We both had dead-beat dads and swore our kids would never suffer that experience. You failed and they know you are fighting to get out of paying your legal, finaicial obligations...not to mention you never take them outside to toss a football, but you managed time with me while I was a young teen girl.